Should we maintain eye contact thorough out the conversation regardless to whomever we speak to? I mean doesn't it feel weird? Especially while talking with women...
2007-02-08 02:39:10 · 19 answers · asked by deostroll 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It can be a little bit akward sometimes to look someone in the eye. But in my opinion, it's a sign of respect. Especially when speaking to employers, customers and others whom you don't know that well. I don't always look my friends in the eye when we talk, but I don't think it's necissarily manditory to do so.
and women do appreciate when you look her in the eye, it shows that you aren't just staring at her chest. and that perhaps you are actually paying attention to her.
In general I make it a rule to look everyone in the eye, or atleast face them and look in that general direction when speaking. When you're talking to someone and they aren't facing you or even paying attention, don't you find it rude?
2007-02-08 02:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you maintain good eye contact, it shows that you are confident about the things you are saying and it also shows that you are interested in what the other person has to say.
Since I'm a man, I can only guess that most women would you prefer to look at their eyes... then at other stuff while you are talking with them.
2007-02-08 02:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mind is clear you will find no problem in maintaining eye contact. It is better to maintain eye contact with the person you are talking, from this you can get a clear idea about that person
2007-02-08 03:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Mallaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the effect that you want the conversation to have. Avoiding eye contact while talking to someone and mainiaining it while listening projects an attitude of subserviance. This technique is used when you need something form someone and want them to feel superior.
Check out "the art of conversation". You'll find a lot if interesting stuff.
2007-02-08 02:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Ricky J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maintaining eye contact is not always necessary.
I prefer to listen with my ears and not eyes.
At some point it does feel strange,and feels like there is a stare down contest in a conversation.
This might be an exxageration,but a continous stare is not natural.
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Sometimes I feel that I actually miss out on information from trying to maintain eye contact and will have to ask them to repeat themselves for accuracy's sake.
2007-02-08 03:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by starrdevine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will have the eye contact as long as there are no other thoughts going on in your mind.otherwise it shows something else is going on in ur mind or u r lying.especially when u r talking to women if u dont have eye to eye contact u will be into problems.
2007-02-08 15:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by ramappa j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People with lazy eyes (or wandering eyes), a condition when one of the eyes will wander off, might find it hard to maintain eye contact. I think they are also other ways, like responding with "hmm" or "mmm". A smile, or a hand gesture or something.
2007-02-08 04:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by djwen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a friend that use to do hiring at her business... and she taught me the best trick... u make eye contact but it could only last about.... 6 seconds.... max... otherwise its just uncomfertable... it can become intimidating.... but you have to maintain it for at least 3 seconds... cause then it looks like your lieing... regardless of who or what your talking about.
2007-02-08 11:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by * 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU GO ON WATCHING YOUR OWN WALK, YOU MAY FORGET YOUR WALKING SOON AND WILL DEFINITELY FALL AWAY ON THE GROUND!!
Please! never ever think about "eye contact", 'body language' all such words!!
It may further destroy your abilities to move with people!!
If you are at your teens, you may get these such little nervousness on seeing women, and it is quite natural for your age!! It will slowly evoprate by itself!!
ONLY DANGEROUS THING IS.... IF YOU THINK IT AS A SERIOUS ONE, AND KEEP ON THINKING AS OFTEN ABOUT IT, CHANCES ARE YOU WILL NEVER COME OUT FROM THE TRAP!!
I will say you a simple mantra to get rid of the shyness to see others especially women!!
When ever you see some one, consider they are just like your parent, brothers and sisters. AND SAY IN YOUR INNER MIND "THEY ALL ARE HUMAN BEING LIKE ME, NOTHING SPECIAL. AND ONE DAY THEY ALL ARE GOING TO DIE LIKE ME"!!
Immediately your shyness or whatever you call, will vanish away!!
2007-02-08 06:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by yozenbalki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more when you are listening than talking.
you dont want things to interrupt you while your talking so you may look away from time to time, but when your the listener its not all about what is being said, body language is a big thing in communication. its not really a matter of eye contact but keeping your eyes on the subject imo...
if a girl tells you she hates you but your not looking at her, you may think she hates you, but what if she was smiling with a twinkle in her eyes and tells you she hates you, you may think she is joking around???
learn to read the body language, tone of voice .. etc girls like to talk alot so its best to read their actions and not so much what they say.... :)
2007-02-08 02:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by tripppah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋