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My and my boyfriend has been 2gether 4, 8 mons and he said its my choice if i wanna get pregnant. Im 12 and hes 15. I really do but i just dont know if its yhe right time. His sister says that he will never leave me?

Answer 1

Wait until you're older. It isn't safe to have a baby when you're that young, your body is still developing. And I HIGHLY doubt this guy will stay with you. Babies are ALOT of responsibility, you have NO IDEA. If you had a baby now...you could go ahead and kiss your youth goodbye. Your life revolves around that baby. Baby wakes up EARLY, needs to eat, wants to play, baby needs to take their afternoon nap (cuts your day in half), baby wants to play some more, baby needs dinner, baby needs a bath, baby won't go to sleep so you can't do schoolwork easily. Basically by the end of the day, you're WIPED. Think hard before you do something so stupid.

Answer 2

hun ur too young. Right now could you support a baby? Having a job isn't the easiest thing, much less tryin to work enough to make a good amount of money to support a baby. Also, do you think you could handle the stress? Babies cry, a LOT, all day and all night. When they get older they test your patience, repeatedly! And do you really think it will last forever? You've only been together for 8 months, and anything can happen to split you two up. Remember, you guys are young, and as people get older they change, what if you do get pregnant right now and 2 years from now you two change so much that you are no longer in love with each other? Then u guys will either stay together and be miserable or leave each other and have a custody battle for the baby. Not to mention that right now your body isn't readily developed to have a baby. You could really hurt yourself, if there are complications you could die and so could the baby. There's many things to consider before you have a baby, please sit down alone and think VERY hard about this.

Answer 3

You have got to be kidding me.

Ok.
You want to act like an adult, then let me talk to you like one. You're an idiot for even considering this.

He says "it's up to you if you want to get pregnant". Why? Because when you do he can walk away because it was your idea. He will feel no responsibility at all.

Do you really think a 15 year old boy is mature enough or has enough life experience or even has a clue what being together "forever" means. I bet you think you do. You'd be wrong.

Do you really think at 12 you are mature enough or have enough life experience or even have a clue what it means to be a mother? Of course, you think you do and that's the problem. You don't. For Pete's sake, you still write together as 2gether.

It isn't just you, either. You get pregnant and you not only change your future in a flash, but you change his future in a flash, and you change the life of everyone around you.

You want a baby, then go play with a barbie. This is real life and you are not ready for it. For another reason not to do this just read your latest question "Does my boyfriend love me?" You can't even answer that most basic question right now.

Prove how mature you are by not doing it.

Answer 4

Holy cow! Is this even a serious question? Well if it isn't, you're a pervert...but if it is...well, you need to think a bit about your decisions.
First of all, this boy is fifteen? And you're twelve. He's in his mid-teens and you're not even a teenager yet! I know you won't like to hear this, but you are still just a kid. For yourself, tell him it's over politely but keep him as a friend. You could always date when you're older and age doesn't matter as much.
Now for the important part...you're thinking about getting pregnant? At twelve? Very bad idea...it's considered young when sixteen year old girls are pregnant, let alone ones as young as you. You made it clear you "love" your boyfriend, but can you deal with a baby? Do you want a baby? Are you going to have sex because you want a baby or because you want to keep your boyfriend happy? Another thing is, being a teenager is a really important time of your life, and if you spend it all trying to be older and wasting it away, think about all the things you won't be able to do like prom, go out with the girls...all that fun stuff!
His sister said he would never leave you, but how old is she? How does she know? Ask any girl who's been in your situation before, and she'll tell you that he said that very same thing to them, and left them to bring up a baby alone nine months later.
Don't do it, sweetie.
Best of luck...xxx

Answer 5

first of all...... PREGNANT AND 12 WHAT ARE YOU NUTS!!!!!!!! I know your not pregos yet, but really do yoiu want to walk around school with no energy and a big belly for 9 months?!?!?!?!??!?!?!

second DUMP YOUR BF. 15 and dating a 12 year old. Something is wrong. He has to be using you for your body ESPECIALLLY IF HE IS SAYING YOU SHOULD GET PREGNANT AT 12!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IF you were 15 would you date a 12 year old guy????

But even if he did love you (which is hard to figure out especiall when you shouldn't get married for another 9 years maybe) Sex before marrage will ruin your marrage. did you know that people who have sex b4 marrage with the guy/girl you marry will increase your divorce rate by 50%????

Plus what if he is not the one??? what if after you do, you breck up??? then you just let some guy take the virginity that you were saving for your future hubby.

This is a better reason why you shouldnt. Ok, lets say that you BF is not the one. Then your future hubby is out there right now with his girl. right?? Well lets say that they are half way across the country. So he is on the couch with (lets say his girl's name is Katie). So here he is sitting with katie and they are talking. and his arm is around her and she says "hey baby you know I love you"

he says "well I love you too"

her "well do you wanna show me how much?"

him "yeah but what about you parents"

her" Oh they're out for the week"

him "cool so you have the house to yourself?"

her " yeah. lets use my parents bed it bigger. you know more love"

him "great idea"



How would you feel? I'd be pissed off that he is having sex with a girl thats not me. Plus that first time sex feeling is ment for you DUH!!!! Not Katie or what ever her name is.

so give your future hubby the satisfaction of receiving your virginity on your wedding nite.

Just a thought

Answer 6

I don't think you should get pregnant. You are entirely to young. Wait until you are much much older to think about pregnancy. Your still a baby yourself. What are you in the 7th or 8th grade? I think that you are definatly not ready for this.

When you think of having a baby, think about this.

I am not sure of what part of the world you live in, but do you really want to miss your homecoming dances or your senior prom because your baby is sick at home and as a mother you have the responsibility to stay at home with it?
You are not old enough to have a job in the US unless it's babysitting or pet sitting, and that is not enough to raise a baby with.
Your boyfriend may be able to get a job in fast food, but that is still not adequate pay for a baby.
Think about what your parents will think, do you really think they want to tell the other relatives or friends of the family that their 12 year old daughter is pregnant with a 15 year olds baby. Your family will more than likely be critized.
No matter how sure you are that your boyfriend will not leave you, I do not think you should be having a baby now. Especially at your age. You still have a lot of life ahead of you. Think of it, by the time your 18 your baby would be 6 or 7 years old. Then by the time your 21 and able to have some legal drinks your baby will now be 9 or 10 the time where they are old enough to think on their own, but not old enough to be left by themselves. Because I'm sure your boyfriend is not going to want to stay home while your out having fun.

Please think through this some more. You still have many many years ahead of you for fun, and having a baby will just restrict that for you.

Answer 7

You should 'break up' with this young man IMMEDIATELY. You are still a child yourself, and are NOT old enough to be a good mother yet. He is also still a child, but he is three years older than you, which at your age is far TOO OLD for you. Just because his sister (who is how old?) says he will never leave you doesn't mean that he won't ... she is not the person 'in control' of his life, and she is his sister and she may simply love her brother, or she may actually be a 'previous victim' of him who wants you to stay because he doesn't touch her when you are around. It IS 'your choice' whether you want to get pregnant, but what he's really saying is that he 'wants to have sex with you' and that 'it's your choice' whether to get pregnant or not get pregnant, so that if you do 'get pregnant' he can claim that it was 'your choice' and think that will remove all 'responsibility' toward you and the child from him. That is NOT a good 'argument' ... but that doesn't mean that you should be having sex with him. A twelve year old is not nearly old enough to 'take on the responsibilities of adulthood' and you should simply 'break up' with him and go back to 'being a child' again. I know that may seem 'impossible' to you at this point, and you may need to talk to a 'real ADULT' (someone as old as your parents) to help you 'get out' of this situation. If you can't 'trust your parents' to give you 'good help' then you can talk to an Adult at school or at your church ... or you can simply walk through the doors of ANY CHURCH and tell them you need help.

Answer 8

This is an answer I gave the other day to someone who asked if boys 13-15 always were thinking about sex....




"Of course, in fact I don't remember anyone my age back then who wasn't trying to get a girl in bed.

However.....

I also remember consciously and later in life I found other hard evidence that backs up my conclusions....

At 13-20, for a male, having sex is a conquest. It fulfills a desire, and is a badge of honor. There is no "love", no commitment, not even respect for the partner, it is fulfilling a basic need.

Males in that age group who feel "in love" with a partner are reluctant to have sex with them. Sex is degrading to someone put upon a pedestal. It is not until the hormones have calmed down that sex and love can equate in a male's psyche "



At 12 years old, should you have a baby with someone who is having sex with you only to fulfill a basic need? Should you have a baby with someone who is not mature enough to know what love and commitment are? Should you have a baby with someone who is having sex with you only as a badge of honor, even though he knows that it is degrading you?

Sure its your choice, but legally its not your choice to make. If my 12 year old daughter became pregnant I would make sure the "father" of the child either would spend the next 20 years in prison or end up on a missing person's report somewhere....

There is a reason why 12 year old girls are not supposed to be having sex, the reason is real simple, 12 year old girls do not have the knowledge yet to deal with the choice.

I encourage you to make THIS choice. Talk to your parents!!!!

Answer 9

Don't your 12 and he is 15,he might not leave but then again he might leave and also if you have been together 8 months you probably don't know him all that much I'm 18 and never wanted to have sex or have a baby I'm waiting until im married to have sex and have a baby and you should also.

Answer 10

Hey hun u might think u really want a kid but once it happenes u wont want to trust me i got pregnant when i was 12. My bf promised to stay with me but a week before alexis was born he split and moved. So i was stuck taking care of her on my own and after u get pregnent u dont have a social life and u r def. an out cast at skool. Im 15 and i have 2 kids takeing care of a child is hard work u dont get much sleep and u dont have much time for anything else i still go to skool and every thing and the whole proses is different stages of pain but its hard but if your absolutl positive u want to have a baby go for it their great but like i said a lot of hard work.