A question about Asexuals Non-sexuals and Anti-sexuals?

Question

This question was also posted in the the Religous section so I can hear both sides of the arguement.

Do you feel there is anything wrong with this lifestyle. Some would say that sexuality is a gif from god and but others feel its more holy to abstain. And still the Anti-sexuals are in favour of everyone sharing their preferance cause the ahinalation of the human race. But the Non-sexuals just have the lack of desire. What is your take on this subject.


This was put out there to get the general publics point of view on the topic. the most in depth resonse gets the points.

some one asked for deffentions so I'm going to do my best to define the terms above. after soem research I found that Asexuals and Non-sexuals are about the same, they just call themselves different names due to the fact that the term Asexual usually refers to an organism that reproduces without sex. An Anti-sexual person is a person who not only abstains from sex, but Hates it all together, and even some Anti-sexual groups went through great lengths to stop other people from having sex with one another. these definitions where found on Wikipedia.

Answer 1

Perhaps I should have gone to the religion section to answer, but I saw it here, so . . .

I think it is very possible to be deceived about the sacred nature of abstinence, just as it is possible to be deceived about the sacred nature of a sexual union. When we get married, we make all sorts of spiritual claims and hopes for the sacredness of the union, but it is still possible for it to turn sour. It is well known that priests and nuns who have made a vow of chastity frequently live to regret it, even to break the vow in ways they might not have chosen but for the vow. I think the priests who were accused of child molesting in recent years are but the modern manifestation of this. I've been reading the historical fiction of Michael Jecks about the middle ages. Apparently women were sufficiently gullible in those days, making it unnecessary to molest choir boys.

Of course there is such a thing as a sacred marriage, just as there is such a thing as a sacred virgin. There have been communities (the Shakers come to mind, but there have been others) that gave up sex altogether, relying only on recruitment to maintain their ranks. They have got down to two or three people by now, I think. Last I heard it was two elderly women and one early middle age man.

See, Mother Nature knows sexuality is sacred, and that means avoidance to some, but acceptance and reverence to most. I will not try to sort out the terms asexual and non-sexual, but anti-sexual is, as you point out, ultimately anti-life. That I cannot endorse.

Answer 2

I assume that you mean by 'asexual', the religious ascetics, who abstain from sex, whether gay, straight, or bisexual, for purposes of religious devotion, including Roman Catholic priests, nuns, friars, Buddhist priests, etc.

This asceticism, so far as it occurs in the Judeo-Christian sphere, seems a logical conclusion drawn from a philosophy that is inherently dualistic, that is, it sees God and Nature (creation) as opposing dichotomies, at least when it comes to human sexuality.

Sigmund Freud and Karl Jung are two psychologists who had a heyday de-constructing the suppressed sexual personalities of people who build their lives around a religious ideal, which deplores human sexuality.

You probably have many different types in your typical monastry: anti-sexual folks, asexuals, covert sexually active, and sexuaally anorexic. Suffice it to say, you don't find a lot of healthy sexuality in these cloistered communities.

Answer 3

i've often wondered if i fit into this catagory. i love masturbating, but getting sexual with another person is something that terrifies me. i have had girlfriends and also had an experimental session with a guy, and i just felt so out of place.. i fantasize about sex with others, but reality just seems to be a problem..

i often think i just need to take time and develop strong love and trust with a person before i will feel comfortable doing sex..

bottom line, i don't think a-sexuality is a choice.. heck, i don't think any type of sexual orientation is a choice. i think we are all born with our sexual orientation.. some just take longer to figure out their true selves..

i wish i could have sex but it's just not something i can force.

Answer 4

I thought asexuals were non-sexuals and, I'm sorry, I can't figure out what you mean by Antisexuals. I'd love to answer though - could you expand on your definitions?

Answer 5

Live and let live. You do what makes you happy and let others do what makes them happy. If you are interested in different lifestyles you should check out the polyamourous (sp) sect.