My husband and I have been together for six years now. He was previously with someone and had 3 kiddos from the relationship. Since him and I got together we have been raising them. I know that she is supposed to always come around because of the kids, but unfortunately it is not like that. It seems to be that she only comes around when she breaks it off with one of her BF.. Which makes it seem that she is not coming around for the kids but instead for MY HUBBY? Although, I know he is not interested, but it makes me really angry how she can try and use her kids as an excuse! A mother is supposed to be there at all times! Not part time! What can or should I do!
2007-02-08 02:18:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you trust your husband then you have nothing to worry about.His ex wife is obviously insecure and very unhappy her loss was your gain so you should appreciate what you have and don't let her get to you.You & your husband love eachother and the children and you just need to love and support the children.You know the old saying"misery loves company"and obviously his ex is miserable she is suffering knowing that you & your husband are happy.You should take comfort in knowing that you have the life that his ex wishes she had.Good Luck.
2007-02-08 02:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow I wager that felt good to allow all that out! have you ever allow your husband examine this? it may supply him a extra effective attitude on what you're feeling. i'd say in basic terms be variety on your sister-in-regulation. which will make her imagine the most about you - and factors her a lot less of a reason to be propose to you. attempt now to not be bitter, ok? like you reported, you receive the added effective end of the deal - you receive the guy and your son. you're the guy who may nicely be happy and grateful, and nevertheless be efficient to others. it should be not uncomplicated, and that i do not comprehend if it really is a chance, even though it may help to communicate inclusive of your sister-in-regulation or perhaps Al's ex. speaking it out - in a civilized, variety way, innovations you! - is often very effective in resolving a situation. Being chuffed is so a lot extra effective than being indignant.
2016-11-26 02:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to put a stop to this. What works for my family is I am the one who has the contact with his ex, not him. He cant stand her and hates to hear her whine all the time about everything. My husband also deals with my ex and it works out great because it is more neutral that way.
If she only comes around when she breaks up with her boyfriends, you need to address this with the courts. Parenting time is supposed to be consistant and you do not need to have contact with her when she is visiting her children. You need to contact the court to see what rights your husband has when she isnt consistant. They will see what is in the best interest of the children.
2007-02-08 02:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-21 23:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you marry someone, you marry their baggage too.
Your husband has to be the one to deal with this. Tell him what the problem is.
Unfortunately, her coming around probably puffs his ego a little and he probably likes it, even if he does nothing.
Tell him to keep their interactions to "business only". However, there are bound to be times when they need to discuss issues related to the children. You'll just have to live with that.
2007-02-08 02:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stay away if you do not feel comfortable. Don't let her come to the house to see the kids, If she wants to see her kids then offer to drop them off to her, or meet her somewhere where she can pick up the kids.
2007-02-08 02:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by ANGIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your hubby is not interested in her then i dont think you have any thing to worry about. however i would'nt like it either, but your hubby is the one that has to be the one to talk to her about this they are her kids too. although i would talk to your hubby about the way you feel about this. i mean you are the one taking the mom roll for his kids.
2007-02-08 02:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you discussed this with your mate, tell him how you feel and try and come to some sort of agreement
2007-02-08 02:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
THAT'S WHAT THEY ALL SAY...THE KIDS! SHE MISSES HIM AND WAITING TO TRY YOUR PATIENCE. ASK YOURSELF, "IF HE'S HAVING SEX WITH HER?" BECAUSE EVERYBODY STILL DO THEIR BABY'S MAMA.
2007-02-08 02:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by JEFFREY W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and tell her straight - to get lost.
2007-02-08 02:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋