I was happy at first but then i just feel weird! My husband has an ex-wife and 2 kids already! I am just wondering am I in a bad situation?
2007-02-08 02:12:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You're pretty young still, but that doesn't mean you won't be a great mother. It always feels a bit weird when the reality of bringing a baby into the world and being responsible for it hits you.
Try to relax a bit and do the best you can to be happy about your pregnancy. Read lots of books about pregnancy, visit lots of websites about it, and try going into the baby section next time you're out shopping and look at all the neat things you're baby will need to have and all the cute clothes you can get for him or her.
I know you're a stepmom to two other children, but this one, will be your baby!!!
You're going to get to experiance the miracle of having a baby grow inside you and no matter what, you're going to be amazed at how cool it actually is!!!
Don't worry about things right now honey. It's going to be just fine!! Having a baby is a wonderful experiance and you just need to take good care of yourself.
Like I said, just because you're young doesn't mean you're not able to be a great mother. There's alot of older women who have babies and suck at being a mother.
I was a teen mom too. Sometimes, I wish I had seen more of the big bad world out there first, but now being a mother is all I ever want to do!!!
You've got the rest of your life to see the world.
Good luck and (((((((((hugs))))))))))
It WILL be okay!!!
2007-02-08 02:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how all this happened and you took that decision but I want to encourage you that there is always a way out of the most difficult situation (and I don't mean divorce or abortion). It all depends on your husband. Is he willing and can he provide for you and your child (and probably for his other two children)? Is he a good man, does he have vices? Does he drink, take drugs, gamble, go with other women, beat you up and stuff like that? If not, then don't worry. Maybe the situation is not as bad as it seems. But you will definitely have a much harder time than people who get married when they are more mature both physically and emotionally. You'll have to be stronger than all those people but then being a strong person is not bad. It will help you cope with life. Just think about finding some professional help - councellors, volunteers that work with different charity organizations, social workers, church member, anyone that can help you carry that burden until you are strong enough to carry it yourself.
2007-02-08 02:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by petyado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16... your body isn't physical able to handle having a baby. You sound like you are in a bad situation. He has an ex-wife and kids already. He shouldn't have gotten you pregnant and you shouldn't have let him... being a parent requires planning. If you didn't want a child by him... you should have been on birth-control. you should of thought about the situation before you got in it. But life will move goes on... make the choices that are best for YOU.So that you don't end up in another bad situation.
2007-02-08 02:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by JessiKa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am in the same place you are...I'm 20 and married to a 38 year old. I'm 28 weeks pregnant and we are both very excited. My husband already has 3 kids from a previous marriage but that doesn't matter. His ex-wife on the other hand isn't happy but it doesn't matter what she or anybody else thinks. As long as you are both happy......if you have anymore questions just email me at marybeth_000@yahoo.com
2007-02-08 02:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mary Beth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 16, your body is physically the best it will ever be for having a baby. Your baby is much more likely to be healthy and you are too. So don't worry.
But mentally, you will find it hard to take as you don't have the experience. Rely on your mother if possible. She will know all about bringing up children and should be able to give advice.
About the marriage, if your husband loves you and you love him, it doesn't matter what age you are.
2007-02-08 02:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Gnomon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
16 and married...16 and pregnant...you are asking so it sounds to me like you arent happy, which would mean yes you are in a bad situation, maybe you should try and talk to a counselor or someone who may understand what you are going through. that's alot for a 16 year old to deal with all at once.
good luck
2007-02-08 02:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by puppy love 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would anyone be married at the age of 16? And why would your parents allow this?
Sorry but this question bugs me!
I say you were in a bad situation in the first place and getting pregnant only made it worse.
2007-02-08 02:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In some states the moms and dads (or) criminal guardians can signal something giving permission for a minor to marry.. That does make it criminal. nonetheless, the better question is why do a 25 and 14 three hundred and sixty 5 days historic prefer to marry?
2016-11-26 02:30:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you finish high school. You are so so so young. Now that you are with child, you have to teach your child how to survive the evils called "Life". You (and your husband) are role models and you have to let your child understand that she or he have to finish high school and get a college education to survive. You heard that cliche before "Knowledge is Power". I believe the reason why you feel weird is because now you are realizing the real world. (I wish it was not so fast though). You will have your ups and downs. Stay strong young woman.
2007-02-08 02:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by smilelyt38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like a weird situation, why did you parents even let you get married at 16, you should be in school, not married and having a baby
2007-02-08 02:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋