I think I might be gay, im only 16 years old .. but im attracted to straight men .. not gay men. It's confusing .. but im christian .. and I can't help these feelings .. no matter how hard I try .. it's like they come to me naturally .. why me? I don't want to live my life feeling like im betraying God .. what do I do? I can't help this!
2007-02-08 01:58:56 · 23 answers · asked by hott_southern_guy99 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am and I am!!! No big deal! Gay people believe in God too!! There is no hell for gay people although some may believe it to be so. God does not hate or disown gays. We are all his children.
2007-02-08 02:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't help this. God knows that. He alone knows what's in your heart. Being a good Christian isn't about being gay or straight, it's trusting Jesus to help you make choices that are right for you and those you come in contact with and doing good works in His name.
Just work at being the best you can be and try to accept that you are who you are, as God made you.
Gay or straight, all of us keep falling for people who don't feel the same way about us. That's part of life. You're really very young yet. Sooner or later you'll find someone (probably several someones) who return your attraction and affection. If not in high school, then surely in college.
Meanwhile, stop beating yourself up. At least 10 percent of the population is gay, the majority from Christian families, so you are far from alone. And despite church teachings, apparently most Christians, including the straight ones, don't actually believe that being gay is a sin. Only the self-righteous, mouthy ones say that.
Be good to yourself. God bless.
2007-02-08 02:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian as well and pretty recently I was begging to think I was Bi-sexual. I have a boyfriend, who I love very much, but I was attracted to other females. It might not be something I like but I cant help it. Neither can you. You cant choose who you like and who you don't like. That is the hearts job. Don't let anyone tell you that God doesn't love you because you are gay. Jesus came to this earth to spend time and help the people who were NOT christian, and everyone else disliked and thought were sinners. We are all his children and he loves each and everyone of us, no matter what.
2007-02-08 02:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by ۵S ara hh۵ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could you be more comfortable knowing that you as a child had an influence of some sort, perhaps innoscently done, that caused this predisposition to homosexuality in you at this time. So you have found yourself attracted to the same gender, and you think you was born that way, you can not help it.
Well I went through many years thinking that, and when God helped me remember the time in my past that the first homosexuality act happened, innoscently, plus I had undiagnoised and untreated gender nonconformity it became a little easier to handle. I could grasp some understanding now.
It was not that I thought because I did not know, it was the releif, It was because I now could see the fact that my behaviour was more out of control than it should have been.
It helped me understand that homosexuality is a choice. Often innoscently made by children, then formed through experiances and thoughts, and most of all isolation and know knowleadge. Seems the attraction factor becomes the main focus of ones life.
One is unable to remember all the ideas and influences as a child one had or experianced. Yet we know we have results from our experiances.
As a Christain I am aware that it was not God's plan for myself to be homosexual. I was able to stop blaming God once I understood that I had made the choice and constructed homosexuality in myself innoscently. Then I could look at the acts of homosexuality and determine how preverse they were.So now with out guilt, I am learning to hate the sin of homosexuality, but love the person. Love my neighbor as I love myself. I do not stand yelling one who has or is a homosexual will be damed to hell. Know I know as long as we live, we have the oppurtunity to ask Jesus Christ to help us understand and make us strong and fight against those temptations.
God did not stop loving me because I was a homosexual, he just had to keep trying to reach me and tell me he could help me.
It has been 4 years scince i first started understanding homosexuality is a choice, and it has been a slow road, but Jesus Christ has not left me, nor will he.
2007-02-08 07:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those feelings come naturally to you because there is nothing wrong with homosexuality. If it feels natural for you then that's what it is.
Your mistake here is believing the religious dogma that you were raised with. If there is a god then he made you the way you are and you are not betraying him by being yourself.
Peace
2007-02-08 02:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hate urself as others have said it is only the jugmental 1s who say u cnt b both so b who u r and learn 2 b happy trust in God to b ur guide we are all His chidren and He doesnt make mistakes dont let others tell u ur life is a sin because it is they who r wrong the gr8est sin are Pride (y the devil fell from heaven) and hypocrasy (it was after all the hypocites of the time that Christ Himself condemed) so live and b happy my brother in Christ.
and b4 any1 says anything i am gay and also a catholic
2007-02-08 06:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Samurai 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can be both gay and Christian and you can find another gay Christian boyfriend and they you can live a good Christian life. There are even some churches who allow and embrace homosexuality. You will find a way to be happy.
2007-02-08 03:18:36 · answer #7 · answered by mfupipoet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of that is rather humorous how the "decrease functioning" christians are responding to this. Caps and broken english rather have a fashion of having a element for the time of. i'm attempting to think of how lots outrage their could be if athiests began installation "ex-christian" camps around america, like those church homes have "ex-gay" camps. What a stupid, hateful faith they have built out of Christianity. My everyday area is whilst they quote from the previous testomony, yet have not got any situation eating swine, that's in specific and explicitly forbidden!
2016-11-02 21:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not betraying God. Do not let any religious figurehead tell you that God hates gays. Got loves us all, gay or straight. If you are gay, just embrace who you are, and go from there. I'm Catholic, and still believe in God and that he loves me.
2007-02-08 02:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was christian when I discovered that I'm lesbian ...
It was so difficult for me ... I just went out of the church because a lot of ignorant peoples doesn't respect me ...
Today I'm happy, live with a woman that was christian too ... We love God, talk to Him ... and He never leave me alone ...
Do what you want, God knows ours ways before us.
Think about and do the better for your happiness..
Kiss,
PS: Sorry my bad english ... I'm just learning ...
2007-02-08 02:37:38 · answer #10 · answered by Alins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋