If love is for what's on the inside, but then...?

Question

OK If you think beauty is not an important part of a relationship, then...?

then why are women so obsessed with makeup, fashion, cosmetics & hairstyles? If you really think people will date people based on what's on your inside, then why bother to take extensive care of your looks? You might as well use a minimal make-up to be happy yourself & not care about what another man has to think about you.

Answer 1

It isn't just Women you know. Almost everyone feels they need to be pretty or handsome to attract someone. Society especially puts that pressure on Women. It isn't a good thing. If their is a Women who isn't the most attractive person, people will give her rude comments and looks. It is society pressure. You are a good person to look beyond looks. Same goes for weight. Over weight people are penilized so much that they get anorexic. Even people who are not fat will get anorexic. It is so sad and it needs to be stopped.
It is also self esteem related. Some people wear makeup or wear the coolest clothes so they can feel better about themselves. It does work for the most part. What if you judged someone by their looks and they turned out to be a monster. See, it doesn't always work.
Some people wear makeup so much that they just get convinced they look ugly without it. Those are the plastic looking Women. The stepford Women. So perfect, no blemishes, no NOTHING...just chemicals and gunk on their faces to try to make them look beautiful. It is strange, but yet again it is society.

Answer 2

I barely wear makeup myself, but when I do it's because I think it's fun to put on, which is true with a lot of women. Some women put SO much makeup on because they are convinced they look hideous without it, and people like to look good not JUST because of what other people think but also because it makes people feel good. Also, looks ARE a part of a relationship. Attraction is a HUGE part - 2 people can be best friends but if they started dating it wouldn't work out if there was no attraction. People say that looks don't matter because they don't want to seem shallow... what a lot of people mean is "looks are not the most important thing by any stretch of the imagination". Love is about what's on the inside, but you're not going to ask someone out on a date who you barely know if you don't find them attractive.

Answer 3

And men aren't concerned with image too? Then why do guys spend hours in the gym, trying to get "ripped" so that girls will like them, and even some using steroids, etc. Is it all that different?

I like to present myself well. I dress classy and wear clothes that actually fit, take care of myself, and can't be bothered to wear make-up, because it gets on your clothes, and once you touch your eyes it's all over. Plus, in the hour I allow myself to shower, get dressed, and complete the grooming regimine, then there's no time for makeup. Yea, I could stand to put on some eyeliner, shadow, blush, etc. but not for some guy. I will for a job interview, formal dance, etc. but that's about it. Even then it's not all like, "WOW, you look great!" so what's the point.

Answer 4

Question for YOU...Do you date only the pretty girls, or do you date less than attractive girls? Have you ever dated a girl with stringy hair and no makeup?

Maybe we wear makeup to feel good about ourselves. I couldn't care less how men feel about me, because I am happy with myself.

Answer 5

You are right.
But we as human beings seek the approval of others, even if we hate to admit it.

Answer 6

to me beauty is in the eye of the beholder...but alot of chicks think becouse what others think not their love...alot of other people are discusted by fat and ugliness and it isnt cool