I feel this way...is there something wrong with me? My mother keeps telling me I will end up very alone but I don't seem to care...she thinks I need therapy...do i?
As they say once bitten twice shy......
2007-02-08 01:52:54 · 14 answers · asked by bumble bee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I was married unhappily for eight years. Got divorced and I'm now happily married for 13. Try again when you are ready.
2007-02-08 01:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people that go through a divorce (who do not initiate the breakup) feel this way. It hurts that you made the commitment and they walked away before working on it as much as you would have liked. However, the very idea that you will never meet someone that will change your mind is extremely small. Take some alone time and then let things happen naturally. I am certain that you will find yourself happily in a relationship that leads to marriage eventually.
Good Luck!
2007-02-08 10:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you need therapy. It's ok to want time on your own AND that you don't care right now =). I've never been married but I spent most of my 20s worried if I was going to settle down and have kids or not. But I wasn't emotionally mature yet etc...by the time I reached my 30s (I'm 35 now) I calmed down about it and got over the worrying. I've been in many relationships and most were either players or losers which caused me to dump then and no want to date again and be happy about it =) I'm with someone now who's the most wonderful man I've ever met. We've been together six months now, he's been married previously and not afraid to try again. I'm not afraid but we are taking things slowly =). Honestly , it just depends on how you feel, not what everyone else thinks you should do. But that comes from self esteem and knowing who you are and what you want. You'll get to where you want to be; don't rush! Best wishes!
2007-02-08 10:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley.I feel the same way.I dont see the importance of that liscense at all!! Look at our divorce rates,its not easy finding a normal guy today at all. If you make a good living and can totally support yourself and have friends and family dont worry about it.You may end up living with someone,or you may be alone but its not the worst thing in the world if you have your own interests. If its meant to happen where you meet someone you will.
2007-02-08 10:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by maryann c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally up to you if you want to ever get married again or not. It is not your moms place to pick on how you feel and no you do not need therapy for this. The only thing you may need help and counseling for is for the pain and sadness that you feel because of the divorce. Hugs to you today and keep your chin up and smile!
2007-02-08 10:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 20 years - it was a fine marriage - he was an okay guy. One morning he got up, got a glass of O.J and said - "I don't want to be married anymore, or be the father of the three kids, ___ I want to go out and have fun". And he did!~!!!
At 1st I was too busy to date or just not interested. After about three years as my youngest turned 18 --- I had the time and money to date - but I was having too much fun going where I wanted to, when I wanted to, and with whom I wanted to. All of my money was my own and I have had fun spending it on myself. Books, the theater, et al. I get a little lonely once in a great while but it doesn't overshadow my complete freedom ~~~ that is one grand feeling!!!!
2007-02-08 10:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by scottyusa1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it just takes time and finding the right person to want to do it again. i wa married for the first time 5 years ago and we were together for 4 months after that and we seperated, we just got divorced last year and i swore the whole time i would never do it again because it hurt alot and was a big pain, until i found my mr. right and we are planning to get married this year. it does take alot of time to get over those harsh feelings but it happens.
2007-02-08 09:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by cnwhab4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need therapy maybe ------ but I doubt it give it time your feelings will change if and when you meet the right person. I too used to think i wuld never marry again but my feelings are changing. Just remember you do not have to get married to be in a committed relationship. Turst me have walked in your shoes, it does get better give it time. Take care......
2007-02-08 09:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother had to bury two husbands, so she said she'd never marry again.
I think that it's nice to be able to find someone to share your life with. If not marriage then a life long companion. I only show two real reason to get married, Taxes and God.
So if you don't care about either, just be happy.
2007-02-08 09:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by T W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people say that , but eventually down the road that all changes.. i wouldnt sweat it, 1. its ur life , u do with it as u please.. 2. your mother should know by now, that people tend to say that but thats only cause they dont know what the future holds for them, u could literally meet the man of ur dreams in say 5 years.. and find urself walking down the isle with him, u cant say it wont happen cause well no one can predict the future, right now, in ur present u have no desire to get married, and thats cool, but never say never.. because well u just never know what the future holds..
2007-02-08 09:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋