i dont want to have a baby, but i do! i know that now isnt the time to have a baby and that i will be better off in the long run to wait a few years, but how can i red the pang of wanting a bub? i dont want to get rid of it forever, but just get rid of that urge to miss the pill 'accidentaly'. i know that if i became pregnant my partner would support me but i want to sort my career out first.
2007-02-08 01:51:01 · 27 answers · asked by kaoss x 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
the thing is, i am around kids and i have had my nephews at the worst of times, but all of that doesnt bother me, i really want everything that comes with having a baby...the sleepless nights the teething, all of it. i guess i feel my life at the moment has no purpose..
2007-02-08 01:56:12 · update #1
i suppose being a police officer doesnt make it a good idea either... raising a baby while trying to make it on the force... sigh... one day i suppose. thanks for all of ur help
2007-02-08 01:59:01 · update #2
It doesn't go away, all you can do is preoccupy your mind with other things until it's time to try for one. I'm in the same position. I want to have a baby right now, and I have wanted one for a couple of years now. We'll be trying within the next year and I've been planning our wedding and just keeping myself busy.
Alot of people say to get a puppy or a kitten, if you are really ready for a baby, that won't help. I have 10 cats and two dogs. I started breeding cats to get over my baby wanting but that only made it stronger.
Alot of people also say to babysit or go to a daycare, again, if you are really ready for a baby, this won't help either. When I'm around kids, even if they are bad, it only makes me want one more.
Good Luck and if you need someone to talk to, e-mail me!!
2007-02-08 02:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a baby now, why don't you talk to your partner and just have one? If you feel now's the irght time, then it probably is the right time. You said your partner is going to support you, so that's great. If you feel secure in him that he is not gonna withdraw after he lives through all those sleepless nights and teeths coming out that you crave about, then why not have a baby now. Yes, it is hard. When I got married, I hardly knew my husband and 3 months later I was pregnant. Yes, when I think in perspective now, it would have been better to wait a year or so to give us time to get used to each other but then when I look at my daugther, I think: "If I didn't get pregnant then, I wouldn't have had her!" So it was worth it. You can't wait until your life becomes perfect, it never will. And you never know what the future will bring - can be better, can be worse. So why don't we use the present while it is still here!
2007-02-08 02:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by petyado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had that same urge, it's the strongest and extremely hard to get rid of i think. I had it for at least 2 years,and was unable to concieve so i adopted, a little girl who is now 7 months old. I am completely happy with my decision I don't even remember what it was like before her and i know why i had those urges because now my life has meaning and purpose. I dont think it's ever gonna be the right time to have a baby. So you can keep fighting if you want but whatever is suppose to happen will.
2007-02-08 02:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by honeydew4514 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, don't go missing a pill on "accident" in order to get pregnant. You'll always have that guilt with you over changing your partners life at a time when he might not want it. Besides, you don't want your child growing up hearing from family that it was an accident. You want to be able to boast to your child that you planned to have him or her and that he or she was concieved out of pure love and nothing less.
It's a really huge thing to be responsible for another human being and you've really got to not only be 100% sure that it's what you want, you want to make sure that Daddy will 100% want the same thing.
I know it's hard when you've got "baby fever", but waiting won't hurt nearly as bad as not being ready.
You'll be a mom someday, and from the sounds of it, you'll be a very good one. Just give it time, and enjoy being you for now.
2007-02-08 02:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was already pregnant wen i said i want a baby i need to find myself a good man or a sperm donor! im not saying that i wasnt ready at the time or trying to make it sound as if i had to say that i found out a month later that i was pregnant but i guess i found myself that sperm donor. i wanted to do the same thing sort out my life before and find that right person and everything actually i felt like a hussy after i found out lol but set ur goals in life and really think about wats going to happen if you have a child to take care of how you would act if you became a single mom or something like that it would prolly take ur mind off from it for a while
2007-02-08 02:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your partner, just tell them that you dont feel that you are ready for the awesome responsibility that children are, but that doesnt imply that you dont want them in the future. As for getting rid of the feeling? Some of the best moms in the world were women who didnt think the time was right or some of whom were using their careers as a great buffer to the keep from saying that being a parent scared them (if they had a difficult childhood) - not that I am saying that you are, its just an example.
Just remember, the universe unfolds exactly as it should, whether we want it to or not.
2007-02-08 02:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by T G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a relationship that is long term and are planning marriage than wait until you are married then after that go for it because if you put it off until you have everything ready and you've accomplished all you set out to do then you will never have a baby. I have two children and we waited and finally we stopped waiting. Its a big responsibility. Just make sure that you put the child's needs before before your own and if you are not ready to do that then don't have a child.
2007-02-08 02:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by V-Man the Tinknocker 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
offer to babysit for someone i'm sure they will agree that you need a little expierence with a crying child for a couple of hours,
it worked at my urge, trust me i'm in the same situation ,
i want a baby too, but i got the opportunity to look after 5 kids for a week all on my own and its fun but frustration occurs when the 3 year old dont want his yogurt and the baby wont go sleep , , as to why i think its only a few years , might aswell wait ,. it will happen , so whats the rush xx
good luck with ur urges lol xxx
2007-02-08 01:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by natasha_essence 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cant miss the pill and just say to your partner woops i forgot. How old are you? Do you seriously know how much work having a baby is? That is one of the most important , trying, and hard working things you can ever do and your just treating it like you are thinking about trying the new flavor of coke. I have 2 kids so trust me i know. You must have a long!! talk with your partner and not just expect him to be supportive. finish your career
2007-02-08 01:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Others have said get a kitten or puppy, but more specifically get a siamese kitten, the one here at my desk is just begging for attention & just a few minutes ago I had to pull a rubberband out of her mouth, she always surprises me with how curious & childlike she is. She cries when she thinks no one is here, she has a "baby" she carries around. Best of all lets face it, she's a cat. If you find you don't like her (not mine) then it's easier to change your mind then if it's a child.
2007-02-08 02:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by 5thof11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋