What should i do if my husband wants to sell our home, but i don't really want to. Our children are really happy there, and so am i. He says he doesn't like living there anymore. I have been with him for 7 Years, and i really want to be fair about all of this, becuase i know a marriage is supposed to be 50/50, But why do i feel so alone in all this.
2007-02-08 01:46:44 · 17 answers · asked by Peaches 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to talk to him, he can't have it all his way especially because it's uprooting your children. Does he have a really valid reason? I think you should tell him that it's suppose to be 50/50 like you said and that you think it would be better to stay until your kids grow up becasue they are settled in their schools and with friends etc. If he doesn't have a really valid argument then I can't see why he wants to, he needs to take a step back and consider what you and your children want.
Is there any reason he doesn't like living their anymore? Try to get him to talk about it, I guess you feel alone because you're having to be the voice of you and your kids, just try to organise a time when you can sit down and talk (talk..not argue :D) and see what goes from there. I really hope it all works out, good luck
2007-02-08 01:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by unscathed_sheep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband make this decision as he is the head of the home but when you go to look at and buy another house shop with him and pick out a house that you like. I feel that you take your memories with you and that is what will last for years and years not matter where you live and you can always build new memories and a life in a new home and place as well. Look at it as an adventure and have fun with it. honor and respect your husband for this and you will be blessed for it. You can calmly mention how you feel and why to your husband BUT only speak and tell him one time and do not yell or raise your voice when you do so. You want to be heard not ignored in this so approach him the right way. Your children will adapt either way.
2007-02-08 02:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is supposed to be 50/50, but it seldom is. There's usually one dominant mate. If you don't stand up to him, then you will be unhappy for the rest of your life. Get him alone (away from the kids) and talk to him. Talk through the reasons he wants to move and you want to stay. Then ask him to say what he likes about living there and you should explain what you don't like. Chances are, you'll reach an understanding you're both happy with.
2007-02-08 01:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there another possible reason why your husband wishes to move? Has he given a more detailed explanation other than he doesn't like it there anymore?
I think you need to sit down with your hubby and discuss why he fees this way. Perhaps discussing the pros and cons to staying where you are and to moving will help determine the best action to take.
He's not the only one involved in this. You have children to consider as well. He needs to not look at just his side to this, he needs to look at the whole picture.
Have a talk with him. It's the only thing you can do.
Good Luck.
2007-02-08 01:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by bluesie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not 50/50; it's 110/110; is a house really that important that you couldn't make a home in a house both of you enjoy living in? In the long, probably not..........do what is best for both of you...that means moving if he is unhappy there, afterall, you want your husband to be happy........if in fact, it's really the house that is making him unhappy
2007-02-08 01:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, it sounds strange that one person would suddenly want to sell their house and move. He must have another motive. Maybe he never liked the house in the first place, but bought it because you liked it?
Maybe he has a financial motive. Either noble or not. I don't know.
Unless he has some kind of psychological issue, I find it hard to believe he would suddenly hate living in a house that he wanted to buy and used to like. There's gotta be something else.
2007-02-08 01:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me. AND the house we were living in had belonged to my grandmother! I gave in and we moved to the country, where I felt very alone and isolated. However, the odd thing was that as soon as we had moved, our old neighborhood started going downhill and is now one of the worst parts of the city. Also the park at the corner of our street became crack central. I don't know, I'm still sad and we have divorced, but I miss that house still to this day.
2007-02-08 01:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him about the real reasons he wants to change home. There must be sth. else. He can't just wake up one beautiful morning and decide he doesn't like the house. What about you and the kids? Try to have an opened conversation with him. Hope you figure this thing out. Good luck!
2007-02-08 01:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, a marriage is supposed to be 100/100. Bring him to understand that it means changing school and all. You're not "really sure" of what you want. Make up your mind.
2007-02-08 01:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by kayneriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage is meant to be 100/100 both partners give 100% of themselves to each other----this is a problem with him wanting to sell and u not.---u guys need to talk and come to a mutual agreement--why does he not want to live there anymore?
2007-02-08 01:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋