How do you tell someone ???

Question

How do you tell someone you dont want to be with them any more .. the spark has gone ...

Answer 1

usually they are feeling the same or in denial, but sense something is not right..maybe there waiting for you to say something first so they aren't the bad guy, either way, sit down talk about it, give each other a hug, thank them for the time you had together and you would like to see them with someone that can give them more then your able to give, and they deserve better....whatever you do, don't lie. Be completely honest about your feelings.

Answer 2

well...i'll cut this into steps..ok?

STEP 1: Acknowledge that the relationship is really over. Come to terms with your own feelings and make a firm decision to end the relationship.
STEP 2: Don't delay the inevitable. Once you decide to break up with your partner, immediately think about how, when and where you will take action.
STEP 3: Make sure you're the one who personally delivers the news. Don't give a third party the opportunity to tell your partner that you want to break up before you have the chance to discuss the matter alone.
STEP 4: Select a private place to meet with your partner to end the relationship.
STEP 5: Find or schedule an appropriate time. Approach the topic when both of you are calm and rational. Don't announce your intention to break up during a heated argument or a moment of anger.
STEP 6: Show your resolve by being firm, decisive and honest. Help your partner understand why you want to end the relationship. Be tactful, not brutal.
STEP 7: Remind your partner that you'll never forget the positive qualities in your relationship, but emphasize that you're ready to move on with your life.
STEP 8: Give your partner the closure that he or she needs to accept the breakup; answer questions and talk it over instead of leaving loose ends.
STEP 9: Stay positive as you both make plans to go your separate ways.

Let go of old grievances during a breakup. The end of a relationship isn't the appropriate time to bring up old grudges.
If your partner does not agree to the breakup, don't allow him or her to manipulate you into staying in the relationship.

Answer 3

Start by asking them how they think things are going. They may feel the same way. It really depends on the situation. It is a lot more complex if you are married (seek counseling first), but if you are just dating, say to them that you feel the relationship has changed, or your interests have changed, and you don't want to see them in a dating situation anymore. Just be honest, they will be grateful.

Answer 4

You just tell them the truth-- Is not working out, feelings are not the same any longer, you're no longer happy in the relationship and its better to separate....

Try to be sensitive when giving your reasons why its better to move on your separate ways and be truthful - None of that "Is not you is me crap"!... Eventually she will appreciate the truth and hopefully you guys will one day be able to be friends.

Answer 5

Well no matter how you tell then it will hurt.say I don't feel the spark between us any more,then explain exactly the way you feel.

Answer 6

Just say it, be honest to the person. Better sooner than later to avoid more pain to the person.

Answer 7

Eeeks.... those words that no one every wants to hear. Just sit them down, and have a heart to heart. Good luck!

Answer 8

that's a hard one i would sit them down and try and tell them as gently as possible

Answer 9

you just answered ur own question.either way u put it you will hurt feelings Good Luck

Answer 10

say the exact same thing you just typed to them. simple.