Once she told a lie that she had a friend who was anorexic who died two months ago but last week we found out that this person never exsisted. She also said that her house was burgled but it wasn't in the newspaper or anything. Also, she said that she went to meet Keira Knightley in London, but her brother told me that they were going up Manchester. I never know now when she is telling the truth or lying. Please help me!
2007-02-08 01:13:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe she is just looking for attention, if you really like her just tell her that you know she is lying and that she doesn,t have to lie to you to be your friend, it sound like she is insecure an really wants your friendship.try to help her, good luck to you!!
2007-02-08 01:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by snookieoo3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this person has some issues to remedy. Most likely this sounds like a self esteem issue. All of these "stories" she's created are probably for either attention or maybe even sympathy for whatever the reasons may be. Being a compulsive liar is not the best thing to be. If she continues, she'll lose trust in everyone she knows and it can really affect her life in the future with jobs, important decisions she may make and other important people in her life. In a very diplomatic way, let her know you know the truth and explain that it isn't healthy to be this way etc..You don't want to be confrontational about it because it will make things worse. People generally in this case have either never been confronted about it or had someone tell them "This is wrong and unhealthy etc.".....Good luck! Best wishes!
2007-02-08 01:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is pretty normal. She just wants attention, and thinks that if she told you all this, you'll be impressed. And well, she is right isnt she?? You DO give her attention!!!
She's just insecure. She thinks taht she isnt good enough and she makes up these stories to try and make her life more 'interesting'
Dont worry about this. Play along, dont tell ehr that you think she's lying. Try and make her feel more secure. Praise her more, include her in conversations and most of all, try telling her that she's an awesome person just the way she is.
If you dont really want to tell her, then just let it pass. Its a phase and she'll get over it soon enough, but she;s gonna need her friends' and family's support to make her realise that she's a truly unique and interesting individual.
As she becomes more sure of herself, the lies will automatically stop.
Good luck!
^_^
2007-02-08 02:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by uniciron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is lying to get attention and prestige.
Unfortunately like the boy who cried wolf, she is going to run into a situation that is truthful and no one will believe her.
If she is a true girlfriend, then you need to talk to her about it and confront the lies....
If she is an acquaintance, then you need to let the friendship go....she does what she does to be important.
This tells me that her growing up years were not good and she did not get what she needed from her parents. Maybe they had no time for her and now she has to fabricate stories to give her a feeling of importance.
This is indeed a very sad situation.
you can't change her and even if you try you will fail.
She needs some professional counselling with a
psychologist. First she has to admit to it before she can heal the old wounds.
You have to learn to take things with a grain of salt and not believe everything you hear...
This is how you can deal with this situation.
Change your ways not hers....
2007-02-08 01:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing for you to do is confront your friend and tell her that you found out the truth about certain things that she has been telling you her "friends". first of all true friends never lie to each other because if you are a true friend you would not make up stories just to impress your friends, or for that matter for that person to like you.
if she did tell those lies to you now, she probably has been doing that for a long time. remember that if you don't talk to her now then she would keep on doing this to you.
2007-02-08 01:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be she never got (enough) attention before when she wanted and she started getting it after she started lying. Or may be at home/in school she is feeling insecure and has some inferiority complex. It seems to me she is having something psychological which drives her towards lies.
You can either neglect her and get a new friend. or if you really want to help her, give importance to her when she tells truth- when u feel its real truth- or when she tells you about any of her failure, tell her its OK and its normal to fail at times. That way she will understand its not always necessary to be best or extraordinary to get attention and that she can get attention by "normal", "real" things also and she will slowly slowly stop lying.
May be you can talk to any of your teacher about this who can understand your friends problem and also talk to her parents. It will be helpful to her if she gets more attention at school and home without having to tell "extraordinary" things.
2007-02-08 01:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like an honest gal yourself, I hate lies myself, so the best thing is let her know that lying in your eyes is bad and that you hate it. Tell her if she wants to talk to you she has to be honest at all times, or that you will not trust her, tell her she has a problem and that you value her friendship. But, friends have to be truthful just the way you are. All the best to you dearie.
2007-02-08 01:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by celest c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people make up stories in their head and can't tell the real from the fiction. While some just say things to impress others. Remind her you like her for herself and she doesn't have to do anything important to make you like her. It might rattle her a bit but she might get the idea.
2007-02-08 01:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 21:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like that when I was in high school. It was annoying and really embarassing. I confronted her about it and she stopped for like a week and continued so I drifted. Why waste real time on fake people?
2007-02-08 01:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋