Any one out there that's married, have this problem?

Question

If you are married and have kids, how do you find the time to have sex. My husband and I have 3 kids and we can never find the time for anything let alone sex. Any suggestions?

He works days and my oldest two go to school while I stay at home with my daughter. He usaually in bed by 9pm while I stay up with my daughter until 9:30 or 10pm. He always says he's tired and I know he probably is. Our nearest relative is an hour away and she's over seas until March. We live in a town where I don't anyone and don't anyone with my kids. My kids are 11,7,and 3.

Answer 1

Your oldest is 11.... All you have to do is ask your oldest to keep an eye the other 2 while you and your husband take a brief evening nap right before or after dinner. My husband works 10 hour days, 6 days a week. During the week I know he gets tired, but on the weekends.... we normaly take an afternoon nap. (Sometimes only for 20 minutes. And my all time favorite is the shower. You can always have a quicky in the shower. Good place for oral as well. All you need to do anoiunce your taking a shower. Then a couple of minutes later your husband announces to the 11 year old that he is going to use the restroom. That way they think you are bathing while he is sh*ting. Hahaha. Yes our kids sometimes knock on the door, I or my husband simply tells them that they will have to wait, that their Dad's on the pot. Usually it works pretty, We usually have a little oral and then a quicky. We take showers together at least 2 times a week. As well as the usual nap we take in mid afternoon on my husbands day off. It might not be the romantic love making we all dream about, but it works for us.

Answer 2

Oh, that is not good. Is there anyway you can find a babysitter at least one night a week? I understand you are in a new town and don't know anyone. I'm actually with you in that boat but we don't have any kids. I would suggest you try to find a sitter so you and your husband can find time to enjoy each other. Run an ad in the local paper and interview some candidates until you find the right fit. You need to have that time together to reconnect. Check into a hotel room even if it's only for a few hours. Any time you can get together is worth it! I wish you luck and I hope this helps!

Answer 3

The answer is actually very simple.Your children should have a set bedtime schedule.Your oldest is 11yrs old she should be going to bed at 8:30.If you put all your children to bed by 8:30 then you and your husband can spend time together.One of the mistakes that parents make is that they don't properly set schedules.Children need to be put to bed at a certain time every-night and then the parents need to spend time together.You simply need to get your house in a routine and make the time for you & your husband.Once you do this thing's will run much smoother.I also have 3 children and I make the time for myself & my husband to have our quality time.There is no reason for you to be staying up until 10:00 with your 11yr old.It is your job as a parent to set the schedules.Good luck.

Answer 4

hubby and I have been married for 13 years and have 3 kids, and we make it a point to have sex at least 3 times a week...You know what they say..where's there's a will, there's a way. I put my kids to bed at 8:30...9:00 for my oldest. There are usually asleep my 9:30...HELLOOO...that does leave the rest of the NIGHT!! sometimes you have to put you and your hubby over minute things like SLEEP! take the 30 minutes to spend together, trust me you will sleep better :) hubby and I have what we call...maintenance sex during the week, but friday and saturday nights are the nights when we have the most fun! you need to remember to enjoy each other!

Answer 5

lol I know this feeling quite well.

My wife and I only have 1 child, but I work nights, and go to school as well.

The best advice I can give to you is to schedule a day or a weekend when you can ship the kids to the grandparents, or other babysitter and spend the day together romantically, and make sure to include sex in there.

Yes it does sound unromantic, and forced, however I have found that forcing the time to have sex like that has made our relationship better.

In time the spontaneity may have time to return. For now make the time.

Answer 6

After you put the kids to bed and if they don't have a set bed time get one. My kids go to bed at 8:30pm everynight except Saturday. I have a 10 year old and a 6 year old.
You have to make the time and if your tired there is no better way to go to bed then after foolin around, you'll sleep like a baby LOL

Answer 7

Get a trusted babysitter and plan a night away from the kids (at least once a month). This could mean going to a hotel or dropping them off at a relative's house.

Answer 8

My brother used to bring his 2 kids to stay with me for 1 or 2 days every month ..

First , i have 3 water gunz , so we start a war For about an Hour

then we play need for speed ( Multiplayer ) i let them win most of the time .

I order a pizza , then we go back to play more video games .
then we go for a walk if it's not late .. we come home very exhausted & kids sleep for long long time , it's really fun and kids love me , i am their favourite uncle for sure .............

Answer 9

Get a good baby-sitter (to stay at your house for a few days and take a weekend for yourself at a minimum of 50 miles away at a reasonable hotel. Just you and your husband - maybe get a relative for the baby-sitter.

Answer 10

I think there is something else going on with your DH not being your sex partner. Like someone else said, there are 24 hours in a day.

If you initiates and he rejects you, then there is a sex drive/ sex attitude imbalance. There is a support group for people in this predicament, and we invite anyone not getting enough to visit us.
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