Im so Confused and i need any help that you can offer me. Im worrying about this problem over and over and cant come to any rational answer.
Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and up unitl 2 months ago everything was OUT OF THIS WORLD....Honestly It was fantastic. I could see my future with him stretching into the distance.
One day out of the blue a thought entered my head - what if I dont love him - What if it is all my imagination and I am convincing myself of this.
Since then, which was 2 months ago I cant get the thoughtd out of my head, they worry me from the time I get up to thje time I go to bed. They worry me when I am at work and even somtimes (rarely) When I Am with my boyfriend. When I hug him and kiss him, in the back of my mind a voice is asking me if what im doing is fair on him because what if deep down inside I Dont love him?
I have explained this to my bf and he is being very supportive. I still enjoy spending time with him and enjoy goign on weekend getaways with him but prefer to just me him and I and no one else we know.
How can I beat this cycle of worry and try to work it out if I really do love him? I keep telling myself that I wouldnt be so hurt and worries at the thought of losing him if I didnt love him, but that doesnt seem to have an effect on my mental state.
Any suggestions? My GP put me on an anti-anxiety pill and that is helping a bit
2007-02-08 00:42:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hey sweet no worry u'r normal, in a relationship sometimes they happened these things,, even people who are married they are insecure of there love for thier partner.. i think u love him, cause if u don't, u didn't write so we can help u!!! try to take a brake with him, don't see him for 3 days and see if u miss him or not, but your love seems true, cause in your letter when i was reading it, i felt like u were sad and u were crying when u was wroting it. everything will be solved dear trust your hearth and have faith!! tc sweet!! if your love is true u will won it!!!!! another thing stop taking pills!!! cause u know what u want!!!
2007-02-08 01:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you ask yourself what it was that triggered this
thought into your head? Perhaps you suddenly realised
that you do love him and you are afraid of committment.
Instead of making yourself sick with worry - please live
each day as it comes. Enjoy your partnership with your
boyfriend. No ones telling you to get married. Just enjoy
while you can. It's good that you have such a supportive
boyfriend. Others could get freaked out by it all - cut their
losses and run. But obviously he cares for you very much.
He is there for you now. Before long you won,t need any
pills to help you. You have already said you enjoy going
out with him. I know a lot of girls that would love their
partner to take them out or away for getaways. Good Luck.
2007-02-08 08:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if you are worrying because something very good is happening in your life, and you feel something might ruin it. Did you ever have something good in life and have it taken away from you in past? You might be subconsciously trying to protect yourself from this kind of hurt again. Some women think that " this is too good to be true" so subconsciously they sabotage the relationship..."because it's not going to last anyway" or deep down they think they don't deserve it". It a protection mechanism for your heart. Enjoy the love and companionship, you sound like you have a wonderful guy....and you deserve it!
2007-02-08 08:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is obvious to me that you do care about him a great deal!Or you wouldnt be asking this! I wouldnt worry if you love him or not, if you dont and you are meant to, then it will come in time. If you love him, you will know and you wont have to question it. Love should never be questioned or worried about at all, it just happens to us when we least expect it. All the worry you are doing is just wasting your time and stressing you out for nothing.
Just live each day to the fullest you can and dont expect any miracles or wait for things to happen. Make things happen and enjoy each day!!
2007-02-08 08:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by lhyer1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt those feelings myself.
I think the only way to get through them is to know that the relationship may end someday, but that in the meantime love them with all of your heart.
And by the way that someday will be very far away if you make an honest effort to show you love them every day
2007-02-08 08:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if you might be a commitment-phob - I am - I've done that to all my b/f's - - I end up leaving them - I still love them, but find fault in them, so I have a reason to leave - Maybe you need to delve into your past and see why you may be doing this.
I know that my childhood is my problem - - I hope everything works out for you
Good Luck!!!
2007-02-08 08:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by tirebiter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the thought of losing him scares you then you probably do love him and if this question is driving you mad then you do love him. Stop worrying about it and just enjoy the time you spend together. if you didnt love him you would know. Just enjoy it.
2007-02-08 09:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to calm down, go with the flow, you're having fun, don't ruin it. Good luck!
2007-02-08 08:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are thinking it you don't love him
when you are truly in love these questions do not pop into your head you just know
2007-02-08 08:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you cos u sound around 13. if thats the case...get over it!
2007-02-08 08:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by LoVE LiFE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋