My sister acts way to old for her age?

Question

my sister acts way to old for her age what can i do to make my 14 year old sister act 14 instead of like 20 she already smokes and she acts like sleeping with a guy is so cool...my mom is a loser and she doesnt know how to take care of us so i do what do i do

she gets cigarettes from her friends and my mom

Answer 1

If your mom has problems and isn't taking care of you right and you're the oldest, chances are you're trying to step up and help mother your sister. While it may seem like the right thing to do, you need to realize that you are still a kid yourself and parenting is not your responsibility. You're young and you're supposed to be having fun and not having a lot of worries.

My sister was a "loser" mom and she had three girls. They all have suffered for it. My oldest niece is currently living with me as a result of a bunch of problems that stemmed from her mom's problems. In this case alcoholism and drugs.

The best advice that I could give you would be to talk to a counselor at school. Myabe talk to your own counselor if you're still in school. If not, then you could contact your sisters counselor and explain that you're worried about her. They are trained to handle some tough situations and will most likely try to help intervene. If you ask them to keep your name anonymous they usually will. The other option, depending on how bad the situation is, would be to contact child protective servies or whatever family type agency you have in your state.

It sounds to me like your heart is in the right place. Keep your head in the right place too and make good decisions despite what is modeled for you by your parents. Stay strong and good luck.

Answer 2

Your sister sounds like she is not all happy with herself and doesn't feel a whole lot of love from her mother. I know you are concerned about her but there's not much you can do. Tell her that you love her but the things she is doing is only going to hurt her in the long run.
Let your mother know what is going on (she may have no idea), if she loves her she'll try and get help for her. Most times the person has to hit rock bottom before they realize the mistakes they have made. Only then will they be willing to seek help. Let your sister know that you'll be there to help her when she falls.

Answer 3

You shouldn't have to be the one to act as the parent first off and secondly maybe your sister just needs to learn the hard way when either she ends up pregnant or gets a std or worse aids.
All you can do is talk to her, she has to take it from there whether she wants to do right or not. Maybe you should take her and get her on birth control and that will take care of her on the sex part.
Who is buying the cigerettes for her? She is underaged and i am wondering how she buys them because i am 27 years old and still have to show my ID everytime i buy cigerettes.
Maybe the twp of you should try to live with someone else if your mom could care less about you two.
Good luck

Answer 4

Just tell your sister to slow down, she doesn't want to make some big mistakes she is going to regret, although I don't smoke now I did start when I was 14 as well, but it was only because everyone eles did it and I thought it was cool, she is probably haning around a bad crowd.

Answer 5

well, i can't say anything about the smoking, i started smoking young too, but now i regret it. Tell her what happens after long term use of cigs, and not all that "cancer" stuff, that doesn't scare someone away from smoking. Tell her about every morning waking up coughing and your lungs hurting when you breath in. Walkin up a flight of stairs and gettin winded because you smoke too much. Tell her about those things instead of the usual "toxins and cancer" to scare her from it. About the sleeping w/ guys, let her know it's not cool, no matter what. Ask her if she really wants to be one of the girls that everyone talks about that opens her legs to every guy because it's "cool". And please please PLEASE tell her to use protection if she's going to. Let her know that while having sex you have to be careful, all diff diseases that you can get and many are very unpleasant. Take her to a website and SHOW her what syphilis and herpes looks like. It sounds gross but it shows the danger right there in her face, instead of just mere words.

Answer 6

There's not much you can personally do about it. Your mom needs to step up to the plate and put a stop to it. Unfortunately, your sister is spiraling out of control. If your mom doesn't get a handle on things now, then it's only going to get worse. You could try talking to her. She might listen to you, or she may spout off at the mouth at you. So, be prepared.

Answer 7

It's a good idea to talk to a councellor and as I'm not such I can just give a suggestion. I think that your sister will not listen to you, especially if you are younger. So you can try to describe a possible future for her by finding real stories of girls her age on the Internet that got pregnant, got a venereal disease, got hooked on drugs and so on and send them to her e-mail. Do not send them from your e-mail but register with a different name, something mysterious, like "yourguardianangel" or similar. Just don't overdo it. You want to scare her, not to teach her to do even worse things than she has already done. And maybe she hasn't done anything much yet, just talking like somebody who wants to look cool.

And it will still be good to talk to the school councellor. S/he might give you better ideas.

Answer 8

Explain to your mom that she should help out your sister and not to buy her cigarettes. Explain to your sister that rushing through life is not a good way to live and dicuss the possiblities of her getting lung cancer from smoking or getting pregnant.

Answer 9

be a role model. if she sees you doing things that normal teens do and succeeding at things then she'll want to follow your lead. my little sister and I are 11 months and 19 days apart and we've always been inseperable so when i went to college she kinda lost her way but i came home every weekend to do a sister activity with her or she came to spend the night with me on campus just so we could maintain our relationship. lil sisters and some big sisters like to play follow the leader, so lead her in the right direction and she'll follow.

Answer 10

Talk to you school counselor. There is a whole bunch of issues going on here, way too many to try to deal with on Yahoo.

You got your sense of morality from someplace, your Father, Church, or something.... talk to them about this as well.