I have a 10 year old that could find it in the history if he really tried hard enough. We've always had such a good relationship. The first time I found it we talked about it, I asked him if it was something that I wasn't doing to please him. He said no and that he wouldn't do it anymore. Boy was I STUPID. I thought that couples watched that kind of stuff together, if there into that kind of thing. Help me.
2007-02-08 00:30:27 · 6 answers · asked by zoejane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband was doing the same thing and after having a baby I felt very uncomfortable about it... I asked him to stop and he said he would, but that was a lie. So I just went to netdogsoft.com and had it blocked from the computer. It is really great and has worked really well for me!!
2007-02-08 03:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by GIRL 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pornography is not good for anyone. It obviously hurts the wife (as you know). It hurts that children because they WILL find out what's going on and will see that Dad is doing it, so it must be ok. And it hurts the husband, since it can become an addiction and can leave him less satisfied with his wife.
You obviously care about these dangers and affects and it should not be taken lightly. Unfortunately you're fighting a culture in which "Boys will be Boys" (I recently heard of a wife proud of herself for sending her husband and friend off to go to a strip club, claiming she is "cool").
A husband wife relationship is precious and their sexual relationship is the most intimate part of that. Anything that threatens that is pretty much pure evil and there is nothing redeeming about it. In terms of watching together...you wouldn't invite real people to come into your bedroom and perform, would you? So why would you watch it on a screen?
I would suggest talking to him again and share your concerns about it. He has to get to a point where he sees that it's wrong. If he does, the two of you can work on it together (such as investigating internet blocking software - which you really should already have for the 10 year old...or making sure all computers with internet access are in central areas of the house - he probably won't look at it with you or your kid around). If he really has no remorse over it, than it's a pretty tragic situation and you'll have to find some good arguments for why
2007-02-08 01:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Install covenant eyes http://www.covenanteyes.com/
Here's what Dr. Phil believes:
It is not OK behavior. It is a perverse and ridiculous intrusion into your relationship. It is an insult, it is disloyal and it is cheating.
Consider how it makes your partner feel. If it makes your partner feel ugly, hurt, deceived, lied to or inadequate, then it needs to stop. If it is eroding your relationship, it's gone too far.
Pornography isn't real, it's a fantasy. It's makeup, beauty lenses, hair extensions, camera angles, lighting and silicone! It's also somebody's daughter who has taken a really, really wrong turn. She's demeaning herself, debasing herself, humiliating herself and she's being exploited by people who are funded by you. It is a sick, demented, twisted world. It's not healthy, it's not natural and it's not normal.
Viewing Internet pornography or engaging in cybersex is a short step to taking cheating to the next level.
You need to tell your partner that viewing pornography is absolutely, unequivocally unacceptable in your relationship. Draw a line: Your partner needs to choose between the pornography or the relationship.
2007-02-08 05:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your husbands stupid acts, my husband tried to pull that on me, I let him know it really hurt my feelings. Him knowing that is was hurting me in someway promised never to do it again. I still check to see if he does and he doesn't. If your husband loves you enough to care about your feelings he will stop.
2007-02-08 04:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can install NetDog Porn Filter on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2007-02-09 19:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by beyondhelper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE YOU SHOULD START WATCHING IT ON YOUR OWN AND LET HIM "ACCIDENTALLY" SEE THAT YOU ARE WATCHING IT. GIVE IT RIGHT BACK TO HIM
2007-02-08 01:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋