How do you tell your husband he's getting too fat?

Question

My husband is steadily picking up weight and i'm getting worried about it. He's diabetic and doesn't really eat healthy. When i was preggers with our daughter, i picked up 25kg (i've always been on the slim side), but after delivery i worked hard a the gym to lose all the weight. I tried to talk my dh into joining the gym which he did, but he seldom goes. I mean, if i with a baby, and working full time (with no nanny or help) could work hard at losing the weight, why is he not making more effort. He also gets angry when other people comment on his weight gain. What can i do to make him see my point especially with his health issues??

I started buying healthy options for food at home but he won't eat them he'll rather go get the not-so-healthy options!

Answer 1

I think you should lovingly talk to him about your concerns for his well-being. I believe you have an open communication path. Don't talk to him from the point of view of what YOU want , but what you think is best for HIM... Interest him in the healthy foods that you cook. Get a recipe book and you can both select what to cook. Healthy doean't have to be Boring! Try talking to his dietician or doctor (as a diabetic he should have one or both of these) about your concerns, maybe they can also make him see the importance of him taking responsibility for his health

All the best!

Answer 2

It is a really difficult subject to bring up, i have had the same thing said to me and we nearly broke up over it..... BUT when it was said to me I was no where near fat and was still well within my healthy weight range for my hight, so I took the comment as unjustified and to heart. With your husband try angeling it on the concerned about his diabetes side rather that you are putting on wieght side. Tell him that your scared about the food choices he is making because it could make him sick and that you would like it if you both tried to set a better example for your daughter. Also maybee try saying that you are trying to maintain your weight/ or loose weight which ever is applicable and you find it very hard when he is eating unhealthy food in front of you...Ask him if he could help you out be eating the same thing as you for dinner...

Answer 3

In answer to the question, "How do you tell your husband he's getting too fat?" the obvious answer is, "Unless he's mentally retarded, he already knows that." So, don't tell him that, or else enroll him in Special Ed immediately.

Later on, you come up with a more realistic question, "What can I do to make him see my point especially with health issues?" Now, are you saying that he is unaware of the effect weight gain can have on his diabetes? Again, I find it hard to believe that he is ignorant. However, you could print him a few web pages about it in case he doesn't know. Plus, you could arrange to have his doctor or a nutritionist speak with him.

I suspect, however, that your real issue is not that your husband is ignorant of anything, but that you are angry at him for not taking active weight control measures. If this is the case, all you can do is bring emotional forces to bear. Tell him lovingly, with heartfelt sincerity, about your concern for him, and about your fears of what will happen if he continues on his present course. When you have this conversation, remember that your fear for his future is what has caused your anger, so focus on the fear, not the anger, which is a secondary emotion. Be clear and specific, but also sympathetic, and wear your worry on your sleeve, openly and with vulnerability, for him to see. If he loves you, and if he is not suicidal, he will listen and try to change.

Answer 4

Tell him you love him and don't want him to die of a diabetic comma. Tell him you and the kids should take a walk after dinner every night to help his diabeties. Be supporative by buying only healthy foods in the house. Make him meals that you all eat and he can too. This should help him and he'll lose weight too. Find things for all of you to do that he won't think it's exercising, like bowling, golfing, hiking, walking around the mall even. Good luck!

Answer 5

take him to a hospital and let him see just what happens to obese ppl with diabetes like amputated legs
try shock see if he wants to be alive in 5 years
tell him he stinks cause hes soooo fat
let him get sooo fat he cant get outta the house to buy junk food
get him to a dietician quick -
tell him u no longer find him sexually attractive and that ur going to hve an affair if he doesnt lose it -
tell him hes a selfish fat lazy pig cause hes going to leave you with a baby to raise by urself cause he cant or wont control hes eating
tell him the budget cant affod the extra cost of the other unhelathy options
Is he under stress men sometimes feel stressed with the added responsibility of a new baby ?
My husband put on 25 kilos thats about 60 lbs when i was pregnant and he had morning sickness as well
Maybe the gym aint the answer find things u can do as a family like walking the baby, the dog, playing frisbee so hes getting some exercise that doesnt feel like exercise
You going to have to outsmart him -
Does he like to swim ? what about water aerobics ? What about
weights? does he like any activity ? get him moving and he will either be too tired or too busy to think about eating junk

Answer 6

If he is also diabetic, and that he gets angry when people comment on his weight, how about seeing your doctor who treats him for diabetics and ask him to give him really a good and strong advice on his weight. Becasue the two hardly goes together.

Then you can offer to go to the gym with him on regular basis.

You are a very carring woman, and your man should be proud of you and appreciate your concern.

All the best!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Simple answer: YOU DONT!!! You telling him to lose weight will only push him away. He will lose it when he is ready, regardless of the health consequences. I picked up alot of weight with my 2 children, and the last thing I wanted to hear was my husband telling me I was too fat. And you know what? HE DIDNT!! He loves me regardless of my outside appearance. The only thing you can do is to suggest you do things together, like going for a walk, to the gym, etc. How can he turn down an invitation to be together with his wife? Best of luck to you!

Answer 9

Say to him, "Can you still see your thingy?" lol But seriously, weight is more of a function of what we eat. He has to be interested in the foods that will help him. At work he may have lots of pressures to eat foods that will put on the weight. Foods that do not put on the weight are gassier and social tables don't accept that gas perse. The untamed gas acts like a tool to dominate, similar to the wolf peeing around it's territory. So society doesn't take to it much.

Answer 10

Fortunately, you're a wife addressing your husband about this issue (rather than the opposite), so that makes it at least possible.

Simply remind him that you love him, care about him, and want to help him live a long and happy life. While the fact that he is a diabetic may cause your concerns to sound like a broken record to him, it's only because he knows he's not doing what he should. He just needs love, support, and perhaps a bit of firmness.