I have to work with this man and have lost all respect for him. He has been married for over 25 years. I just feel like if he is not happy with his wife, he should leave her and then screw around with other people. His wife is so sweet...
2007-02-07 23:52:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As much as you care about the situation, it's really none of your business. And if you interviene, it may backfire on you.
Don't worry, the dumb ones get caught. They always do.
2007-02-07 23:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of this one. They both know what they're doing is wrong, it is not up to you to stop them. His wife may already know and may not be ready to confront the issue.
Chances are that if he has been married for 25 years, he has had more than one affair. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Feel sorry for his wife if you want to, but do not confront this man about his behavior, or his girlfriend either. People do crazy things when they think they are being threatened.
Steer clear.
2007-02-07 23:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, whom do you think you are to judge your wife? You say she had some kind of relationship with a cousin and a classmate. And so what? How many relationships did you have before getting married?? Ahhh, sorry, this doesn’t count, because men are free to do whatever they are pleased... You are one of the jealous kinds and that’s why your wife wants to avoid problems. Are you stupid or what? We can’t choose our co-workers and we do have to have a fluent relationship with our colleagues, that’s all. But you see cheating everywhere, so I do understand your wife. If you would not try to see a thief behind every tree she would not have to hide such stupid things like the sex of her co-worker from you. She is just working with him and not having an affair, so why don’t you calm down and start to work on your jealousy problem... ???
2016-05-24 06:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definately shouldn't tell his wife. That is his job, not yours. If you are uncomfortable being around him knowing about it, talk to him. A lot of couples that don't know that their spouse is cheating on them would rather be in the dark and be with them than know the truth. Especially after being married for 25 years. I know it sounds ignorant, but I know a lot of people like that.
2007-02-07 23:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by saram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main part of your situation with which I'm having trouble is that you state he's having an affair as though it is a fact. How do you know that? Did you see him actually having sex with the other woman? I find that highly unlikely! You are stating as fact something that you suspect. Maybe somebody told you they were having sex. Even still, that's second-hand information. If someone told you, did the person who told you actually see them having sex? Again, highly unlikely. In my opinion, it would be cruel of you to burden your co-worker's wife with rumors or speculation.
2007-02-08 00:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must mind your own business. You meddle in the affairs of another couple and you will find that you are made to appear the troublemaker and the cause of any discord between them. Seriously, the wife will not - I repeat, NOT - be grateful to you.
You don't have to like this guy, you only have to work alongside him. If his off-duty behavior irritates you that much, you need to find another job.
2007-02-08 00:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be blunt..but..this is NONE of your business! Don't get tangled up in a co-workers "extra-curricular" activities! Believe me, he will eventually be found out and if you involve yourself, people may even think that you are somehow in on it too! Leave it alone. You are at work to earn a paycheck...not play Dr. Phil!
2007-02-08 00:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by kelstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Minding your own business is good advice. . .
however if you must intervene. . . do not confront him, do not push him into a corner, you may get hurt.
if you really want to spill the beans, the you should put your money were your mouth is, and hire someone to take some happy snaps, and have them sent to the wife.
but be warned there is no happy ending. if he ever found out that you were involved, you would want to leave town
2007-02-08 00:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay out of it sooner or later she will find out if he continues.Isnt that the way it always is?The wife is so sweet,In life this situation always comes up,many times I have wanted to tell but never did.just let it alone and hope she finds out on her own
2007-02-08 03:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by maryann c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isn't really your business unless u are a close friend of his wife's. u have to work with this man, so leave what u are thinking unsaid. this is not about your respect for him, or how u feel about cheating. do not get involved in it.
2007-02-07 23:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋