what should a girl do if their parents deny their love and speaking about their suicide?

Question

my sister is in love and their parents don't like this match and saying if you marry that guy we'll commit suicide.
Its urgent....

Answer 1

Wow - that sounds like a really bad situation. From my understanding you're saying that the parents themselves are threatening suicide if your sister gets married.

If that is the case, you need outside help. How old is your sister? If she is still a minor there are a lot of services out there, including the police, social services etc. It just depends on how involved you want to go and to accept that you may be seperated from your parents for a while. Which can make the decision really hard. But what they are doing qualifies as emotional and psychological abuse, especially if the threat can be proved - i.e. they put it down on paper. There are also private services out there that can help navigate these types of situations. I don't know where you are but you can search online for those types of companies. Usually you can also call them without giving your name if you just want to talk to someone about what to do.

All suicide threats need to be taken seriously, even if there is a slim chance that it will really happen. In this case the parents are probably just trying to scare the kids into spliting up. The chances are slim to none that they really will follow through with the threat, but you can't bank on that.

Your sister also needs to decide what she wants to do. Does she truely love this guy or does she just like pissing off her parents? You and her also need to know that you're not responsible for other people's actions and responses. Your parents are out of line doing this sort of thing, but you can't blame yourselves either.

In case I read this wrong - if it your sister and her guy threatening suicide the same above applies here. Don't hold yourself responsible for the actions and choices of other people - especially if you did everything possible to stop them. They are out of your control.

Answer 2

It's crazy to say that to your child, it's selfish and irresponsible too. As a parent, I don't want my daughters or son to marry or even date someone who I don't approve of. Part of being an adult is making decisions and learning from them. Your parents should trust their daughter and be there when she needs them rather than threaten their lives. What kind of example is that? Is this how they are teaching you all to deal w/ problems?

I think this is a bluff. If your parents are doing this for your sisters good, then they won't leave her like this for her good. She needs to do what she thinks is best for her and not her parents. If she allows them to do this now w/ her choice of her mate, what will they do w/ other decisions more important?

Tell your sister to do what her heart desires. If she has to, they should go to counseling or even call the crazy house and tell them that her parents are suicidal. Then she can live her life and they can get help for this psycho threat.

Answer 3

First off they are not serious and second if she chooses to marry this guy then her parents could possibly drop out of her life cuz they hate him so much. Now ask her if its really worth that, i mean who's to say this guy loves her that much and he ends up leaving her? Parents are important too. Since she is going to want both in her life have them spend some time together and find out what it is that they hate about the guy and have him show your parents that he is working on these thing, if he wont do it then he is not worth being with. If he won't try and get along with the parents then he wont try anything for her.

Answer 4

they sound horribly controlling. is this a pattern in other facets of your family life?
is suicide a normal reaction to your culture in such circumstances?
if not, then, their comments are most likely just trying to control a daughter who is no longer a child they can tell what to do.
emotional blackmail.
your sister should perhaps try to keep the relationship quiet for a while, let them settle down a bit.
but ultimately, they sound desperate to control her and it's the only way they know how.

Answer 5

hmmm real good parents! I think this girl should call their bluff,and even if they did commit suicide which I dont think they will it still would not be her fault its their decision not hers.They are just using this as a means to control her life and I think it is sick.She shouldnt worry,see it for what it is a control issue,to me suicide is a personal choice and I never believe it is someone elses fault EVER.

Answer 6

first of all what kind of parents would say that. and i would say something to the parents need help to even say that. yes parents are conserned with there kids choses but you dont say that. it might not be a good relationship or a good guy. but they cant control what happens and most of the time the girl has to do what she does to get it and figure it out for herself . thur own experience my first husband was bad but i didnt see it. got pregant and married him. my parents told me not to be with him way before i was pregant but i didnt it anyway. and the funny thing is when i was 9 months pregant and he wanted to marry me i didnt want to cause i figured him out but my parents forced me to even though he beat me up and cheated on me. they pushed me to marry him anyway even though in the begining they wants me away from him. so when i called them up a few years later told them he beats me my mom said well you married its your problem hes not in jail for murder. i have not been with him for years but he never changed.

Answer 7

The girl should get her parents help. It's one thing for the girl to say it. But for the parent to say it is just horrible.

Answer 8

The parents are attempting the worst kind of control.

Emotional blackmail is the worst.

Answer 9

She should tell her parents she has a life to live and will marry who she wants. If they want to kill themselves over it, go ahead but she's going to live.

Answer 10

If it's your sister then they are your parents too so why don't you talk to them about this. If all else fails get them counselling.