I was wondering what the biggest problems are in a relationship, or what causes the most arguements. Is it money? Lack of communication? Stress? All of the above? Other reason?
2007-02-07 23:14:56 · 22 answers · asked by MM 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The root of most problems is a lack of communication, for if you cannot communicate, you can never sort out any other problems that arise...simple i know but its a fact
2007-02-07 23:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by EZ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
THE BIGGEST PROBLEMS:
1. Rushing into a relationship then finding out it's not working
2. Believing what your partner tells you only to find out they didn't mean what they said
3. Living in a fantasy world! Be realistic...
4. Not getting to know the person properly, you will pay the price if for example you find out your partner is abusive
5. Not knowing what you want, but making decisions anyway, then finding out you're in a situation you can't easily get out of
Communication should flow between you and your partner.
Money and stress very often cause major relationship problems but if properly managed then they won't be too difficult to deal with. The house, car, bills, children, pets, cooking, cleaning, holidays, work, lifestyle, social life, family, health and other factors will play a big part in your lives and may also be potentially problematic for both of you. Coming to a compromise is fundamental!
2007-02-07 23:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by Chip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the main problem in Marriage or a relationship where the couple live together is indeed money and also the fact that one person in the relationship might not pull their weight around the house and just expect it to be done the whole time!
Also i think it is selfishness on each part my partner for instance went out the other night for a 'couple of hours' as his mate was upset and rolled in at some ungodly hour bout 3.30am not phoning me to let me know where he was i was worried sick as he didn't have a phone he came in so drunk... it's instances like this that push people apart.
2007-02-07 23:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Missbutterfly:-) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yes money can be a problem but only if there is a lack of trust and you have different aims....otherwise not having a lot of money can be something that you just work with, together. Trust is a big thing and so is respect....communication is a must have.....People can and do stay together during great periods of stress so that is not necessarily a no no...... It boils down to a bit of give and a bit of take.....then you can work it out!
2007-02-07 23:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Susie Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be anything sparks the resentment off: lack of money, contact with an ex, stupid behaviour.... And then you start resenting each other ,because u see each other all the time and have to consult each other about pretty much everything and never get time to cool off and forgive, so that in the end anything the other one says or does gets on your nerves, even if it's something petty, it doesn't feel like that to u , instead feels like more confirmation u're living with a walrus.
2007-02-07 23:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by FIZZYMIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has problems, but some of my biggest problems in my relationship is of course money, and lack of spontaneous-nis <----is that even a word, haha?? To put it in lighjter words- My boyfriend is BORING and not romantic.
We just moved into our dream apartment, and money is extremley tight right now, so we hardly go out on any dates anymore. That stresses me out, because I need excitement in my life! And besides that he is not very spontaneous and he def is not romantic (he was when we first got together, but all the love poems, flowers, and suprises...stopped.). But I still love him with all my heart and hope to marry him someday, so yes, Money is the biggest problem I have. They say Money don't make you happy, but in my case, Money would make me estatic!
2007-02-07 23:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by 88776 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met this dear sweet 103 year old lady whom told me the two primary secrets of why marriages . A person gets tired of trying hard to make the marriage work or... Or gets too lazy to try harder. So I say to all of you married souls. Don't get tired and don't get lazy for your significant other.
2007-02-08 03:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wiggy is nearly right. If you can communicate you can sort most, but not all, problems out. I would say the biggest problem would be lack of trust or one partner betraying trust.
2007-02-08 00:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking the trust. It's so damaging to a relationship.
2007-02-08 00:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In our case, it is definitely the work related stress and the fact that we don't have much time together after work to talk becasue we are so tired... Thankfully week-ends are here to help!
2007-02-07 23:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by Behind Blue Eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋