does marriage really give extra 'insurance' for two people to stay together?

Question

some people said marriage gives extra responsibility for 2 people to stay together, whereis co-habilitation doesn't give any guarantee, does it really apply to real life? do people tend to honor marriage vow these days?

Answer 1

I can't speak for anyone else, but it sure didn't help me. In fact, things were better before we got married. (I'm divorcing, by the way)

In reality though, that peice of paper that says you're legally bound doesn't meant squat. It's a tax break and gives you lower prices on your car insurance. Aside from that, it really honestly doesn't mean anything. Two people can stay committed with our with out a ring and some legal documents. Marriage doesn't have anything to do with it. It's about the people. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work and the papers aren't going to stop two people if they want to seperate.

Answer 2

When you cohabitate its a totally selfish situation, you come and go when you please its just like having a roommate, with some privileges. I knew a gal living with a guy 10 years with 3 kids and one day he just walked out. She was still devastated, she had to still go to a lawyer for child support, sell the house, divide the stuff, it was just like a divorce and there was still pain and suffering. People say they cohabitate because they don't want to be 'tied down' that says they are just too immature.

When people are serious about marriage they know it's a commitment. You usually take vows before family and friends. You promise to be there when things go bad along with the good times. You don't walk out just because something annoys you. You compromise and then compromise again. It does bring stability and maturity because if you both meant what you said you will work things out and not run to a lawyer because she left the cap off the toothpaste tube and caused you anguish (actual reason for a divorce back in the 70s).
The problem lies in the fact that many people don't want to take anything seriously or just love one person. It has been done and will continue to be done.. for all the stats.. if 50% divorce that also means 50% stay married until they die. Marriage is also good for kids it gives them stability, nothing wrong with that!

Answer 3

Most people will not stay in a bad marriage these days. I don't think anyone should live a life unfulfilled for the sake of a vow. Go into marriage with the best intentions but don't give up happiness just to honor a piece of paper. I hope God would understand and wish us well.

Answer 4

I wouldn't say it gives them more responsibility to stay together but the bond was meant to be more intense than just living together. It is just easier for people who live together to just up and leave without all the so call hassle of going through a divorce and all.

People have been burned so many times they feel they would rather take the easy road than to take another chance on real commitment.

What some people don't know is that living together in some states can and does but you in a so called marriage situation and in those states you would be reqiured to file for a divorce even if your had no real legal marriage license, they wouldn't be able to just up and leave without fall out over it. Isn't the law great!! It so does provide some of us whom just live together some form of relief and justice if we are used, cheated on and abused,

As for the honoring of marriage vows.. It does happen but it is very rare and those who have this in their life should be very happy that they are not among those who have hurt and devastation in their lives from their partners.

Answer 5

I think marriage is a kind of contract between two people - but as all contracts it can be just broken off. Actually I know many people who are living together without marriage and are happy besides. The most important matter of marriage is love and destiny to stay together for the rest of human's life. Marriage gives you an opportunity to show what person you are and what can you give to somebody without expecting anything back. It is the best way to train your personality and human weeknesses in order to be a better man. I really think it is worth trying.

Answer 6

Answer to your first question: Yes.

Details:

Married people live together, statistically, far longer than do cohabitors.

Further, several studies that have shown that former cohabitators are much more likely to divorce than married couples who have not cohabited prior to marriage.

Answer to your second question: Sadly, no.

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As many as half of marriages end in divorce, which was not always The case.

The sanctity and formerly perceived permanence of marriage is no longer. Marriage, unfortunately, has become largely considered temporary if things become difficult ----- which is a bad thing for society at large, especially any children involved.

Answer 7

For those mature couples who truly have beliefs and values and get married, they do take their marriage vows very seriously, and do take the commitment strongly. It's not that it's "insurance", but the promise means the bond will last, come whatever.
There are questions all over this site from girls who are
"confused" as to why their guys won't marry them after they have lived together, look after their house, have their children... that should answer a lot of questions.

Answer 8

No.

Vows can be made by one person to another under varied circumstances. Marriage vows is but one of the many.

Marriage is a contract. If requires both parties honoring it, to the letter and in spirit, to work. else, it should be made null and void, with the breaching party suffering the consequence.

Answer 9

Yes, it does but only if the two people realize that they are not just making a solemn vow between the two of them but with GOD also. Sadly, not too many people think of Marriage as a sacred union of a man and a woman. What God hath joined together , let no man put asunder.

Answer 10

My opinion is that we need something like a 7 year renewable contract for domestic partnership. Marriage made perfect sense in the days of old when adults lived to be 38. Sure I could stay married to someone for life if I married them at age 21 and we all died at age 38 but this day and age, no way.