marrying the guy I did. He into online/webcam chatting, He uses cheap vulgar language specially in bed. He has insulted me like nothing with his cheap language abt me and my body.
Just hate myself for making such a bad decision. Still married to him. Need to get out. Dont know how to forgive myself for this decision.
I feel of all the guys in this world (sort of marriage that was arranged), why did I end up marrying this one.
2007-02-07 23:02:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe u were desperate to marry and saw what u wanted to see out of him, and not seeing what was really there. but it is never to late to change things and leave something that hurts us. u married him because u didn't get to know the real him, happens alot these days, they often hide the bad parts about themselves long enough to hook u in. forgive yourself for it, not all your fault really we all get deceived and make mistakes in life, as long as u learned something from it, it wasn't a complete loss.
2007-02-07 23:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound quite young. I suggest getting out of this marriage, as his bad behaviour I believe will only escalate at time goes on. Everyone makes mistakes, love is blind in a way. Don't let any person every intimidate you or make your feel lousy about yourself. That is the sign of a very controlling person. Be proud of yourself, your body....leave him to his webcam and just pack your bags. There is someone better for you. Good Luck
2007-02-08 00:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by lady_tiko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It clearly sound's like you made a mistake.You are the only person that is in control of your happiness.if you are not happy which you clearly do not sound happy you need to divorce your husband and move on.You did'nt mention the word love once in your statement so it sound's like you are just existing in your marriage.You need to seriously decide what it is that you want in your life and then go for it.You stated that you want out of the marriage so make it happen file for divorce.You are concerned about forgiving yourself and you should be able to that you are human and you made a mistake learn from it and move on.If you learn from your mistake you will easliy forgive yourself and others.Good luck to you.
2007-02-08 00:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never once mentioned the word love so I guess there is little of it. Don't waste your life in an unfulfilled relationship. Forgive yourself for a mistake many people have made and move forward in your life.
2007-02-07 23:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you are but I think you need to know that a LOT of men talk dirty in bed. It sounds like it may be your attitude which needs to change.
If husband provides, treats you right normally where is the problem?
Unrealistic expectations will destroy a marriage more quickly than vulgarity.
2007-02-07 23:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe if you tell him how you feel, he might stop, he might think that you like what he's doing and saying, so he'll keep it up until you put a stop to it.. By telling him..
I would at least try, before I give up on my marriage
2007-02-07 23:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get out and stop being miserable. Take the first step and leave. After the first step it will be and become so much easier for you. Everyone deserves happiness. Good Luck
2007-02-07 23:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody's perfect. Haven't you heard that before. Haven't you made other mistakes?
Chalk this one up on the error side and move on.
2007-02-07 23:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this was a dumb thing to do.Get a divorce. You can find better.
2007-02-07 23:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by bette69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋