my 14 year old son finally told me that his stepmother has been questioning him to death when she picks him up about whats going on in the house and he said it made him feel uncomfortable and he said he felt like she was being nosy but he still would answer her questions cause he said if he did not answer her he felt like he was ignoring her what should i do
2007-02-07 23:01:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your son is experiencing the unpleasant interraction of life itself.
We are neither immune nor beyond the reach of people we dont connect with.
There are many different types of disfunction in the world and the 'Stepmother" is exhibiting one type of poor communication which is counterproductive to communication.
It says a lot about the type of person she is, and your son would do well to observe her in a different way so that she can become a learning for him rather than a pain.
Dont rescue him..You cannot shield him from the world forever and you have in this situation a very powerful life experience with which you are able to facilitate and accelerate your sons capacity for wisdom.
Make the most of it.
Process the elements and empower your sons awareness' of his own learnings, and thank God for this wonderful opportunity in personal developement.
Seems she is already a good measuring stick for your son to guage the good qualities of his true mother. Win/Win
2007-02-09 10:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her
tell her it is non of her business what happens in your house
she has no legal right to anything she is not the parent
tell him if he finds it uncomfortable not to answer it is not rude
talk to your ex tell him what is going on he may not know and if he does tell him she is not allowed to pick him up anymore if it makes him too uncomfortable
it sounds like she is trying to snoop and come between the 3 of you DO NOT LET HER DO IT
and your son should not be put in the middle of anything
make sure you tell him it is not rude to nicely tell her i wont answer you thats all he needs to say
2007-02-08 07:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is using " What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" maybe he could just say "What happens in the house stays in the house". Bad situation good luck.
2007-02-08 07:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by puzzled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telephone your ex husband and ask him why is his wifequestioning your son about what goes on in your house ? And that if it does not stop your son will not being seeing his dad . You must be firm about this . And ask your ex to please tell his wife to mind her own business . good luck.
2007-02-08 07:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to ask her is if she is writing a book , tell her if she needs to ask something not to ask your son but ask you instead.Talk to your ex about this maybe he can get to the bottom of it..
2007-02-08 07:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Denny O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the next time his step mother starts to question him, he needs to tell her he doesn't know anything about it and she needs to call and ask you. Tell him to not hesitate to pick up the phone and dial your number for her.
2007-02-08 07:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋