I really hope I dont get abuse from these losers that have been here for the last couple of hours! However I have a problem. I have just came out of a two year relation ship with my girl friend, she was the only girl I had been with. Now I am back on the gay scene, however, I dont ever seem to get chatted up. I am a very girly girl, not funky or rock chick, that seems to be what everyone finds hot these days. The girls I find attractive just aren't attracted to me, as im too girly, but I feel like when I wear baggy jeans etc that I am not who I am. I just want to go out and have fun, but I want to have it without changing myself. A (hot) girl told me last night that I was stunning, but I was not the 'norm' for a gay girl, and not whats 'popular' right now. How will I ever meet another decent girl whilst looking like this?
2007-02-07 23:00:05 · 10 answers · asked by Sophie 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The problem with not looking like the other gay girls, is that you look straight.
So you just gotta be patient. Get into a group of friends. You WILL find someone "looking like that". Just give it time. Love normally finds you when you stop looking for it.
2007-02-07 23:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well first of all that hot girl is a b*tch. Girls who look for dates based on what look they think is "in" right now are too shallow for you, anyway.
lol Every time I try answering your question I end up erasing it because I'm in the same boat as you!
So instead I'm just gonna let you know that I totally understand what you're saying because I'm a girly girl, too. I don't show up on anyone's gaydar. At all. And I know it's because of how I look.
I'm glad you don't plan on giving into the pressure to lose the girly look. You shouldn't have to change your style to find someone. I agree with the people telling you to get out more... to places besides bars and clubs. Apparently gals like us at bars just look like the straight ally out with her friends. Once you're out in the "community" more and make more lesbian friends then there will be more possibilities.
Good luck! :)
2007-02-08 02:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, hon. what part of the country do you live in and how lod are u? I know a few gay gal pals that are lipstick lesbians. Don't give into culture and dress in baggy pants because it is popular. The right girl is out there for you somewhere. Do you have any gay clubs or bars where you live? If so, hit the bars, lots of women like your look, don't change just to fit it.
2016-05-24 06:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what's popular. That's pretty ridiculous. Start trying to meet women in places other than bars. Join a club, start going to gay/lesbian bookstores/etc. Once you start meeting gay friends, you will start meeting possible gay dates. The girl who told you that your look isn't popular right now is a shallow b*tch.
2007-02-07 23:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Beth B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You look like you're supposed to. Don't change, Please. You will meet someone, and when you do, that person will love you for who you really are, not some made up person. Who cares what's popular. that is something that changes with the wind. Part of being out is being able to be the person you are supposed to be. You will find someone, just be patient.
2007-02-07 23:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by ron s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must stay true to yourself, never change to attract a partner.
You will find that special someone in time.
Most likely when you least expect it.
Good Luck.
2007-02-08 00:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't change just keep looking - and perhaps you'll find that someone not where you've been searching.
2007-02-07 23:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to date less shallow women?
2007-02-08 07:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't want a girl who wants you only because of the way you dress...wait until somebody real comes along.(and she will)
2007-02-08 01:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
chipper up youll find one
2007-02-08 00:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋