dont see my boyfriend very often as he is very busy in his final year of uni and he lives in a different town. We split up just before christmas and now we are back together but just 'seeing how things go' till he finishes uni as he is very busy. But i just hate missing him so much, i think about him all the time and really want him to text me, call me etc. But he's rapped up in his own life. Feels like he isn't bothered about me. Am i being selfish? How do i cope with missing him so much?
2007-02-07 22:49:26 · 13 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to get a life.
For your own good, find something that really interests you and pursue it. Keep busy with friends and family. Take a course to upgrade your own knowledge. Read, exercise, go out and have some fun....
Don't wait for something to happen, make it happen.
2007-02-07 22:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess of Laundry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the fact that you have too much time on your hands to be able to think of him as much as you describe. Whenever in a situation where you yearn and need spmething that is not present, than you end up thinking of it with idle time. Idle time is the devil's workshop and the devil works against your happiness. The solution to this is quite simple yet hard to implicate at first.
Go to the gym and destress. Do pilates and/or yoga to balance mind, body and soul. Start making more friends.Talk with old friends and make new ones. The key here is keeping yourself occupied. When you are occupied, you will enjoy more and more times with your boo because you have something to share with him.
enjoy and cheers
2007-02-07 22:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by H Vice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be wrong here - but...
Is he in his final year and you're left in your home town? Perhaps then, his peer pressure makes him feel he's out grown you. He'll probably regret it later... but right now, if he doesn't want to be with you, it sounds like he doesn't want you to be there either.
Maybe time to move on... write him a letter on paper and ask him if this is what he thinks. Then re-appraise the situation.
Good Luck from great uncle Hawk-eye
2007-02-07 22:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by hawk-eye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happens all the time. Seldom is the need for reassurance at a mutual level. The most insecure suffer more, and sadly dear, there ain't nothin' you can do about it untill some good looking guy pays some attention to you.
2007-02-07 22:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby, join a club,just find something to fill your time,be a hospital visitor there are hundreds of things you can do.
Yes you are being selfish,he has to get his education, it will affect the rest of his life.If you put him under too much pressure when he is trying to concentrate on his education ,you'll find yourself "out "of the rest of his life.
2007-02-09 19:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not selfish... If you are needing him to call you and text you so it means he's not doing this stuff as much as you need. he is so busy with himself and his life.. its a difficult situation.. give it time you will forget but it will be difficult... life goes on....
2007-02-07 22:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by :( 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being selfish.Have you tried getting yourself out,nights with the girls etc it will do you good & maybe you will stop missing your boyfriend.Good Luck now get out & party
2007-02-07 22:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's just time to move on, hard to do but he as you said is wrapped up in his new life.
2007-02-07 22:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anchor Cranker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how you feel.i only used to see my boyfriend 2 days a month when he worked away and i was pregnant!:-( just keep yourself occupied,take your mind off things!! or thank yourself lucky!!lol i would give anythin for my boyfriend to go back workin away!!!lol or dump him, if he cant make time for you,then hes not worth itx xx:-)
2007-02-07 22:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by xloux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should find yourself something interesting to do get out and about with your friends and enjoy yourself after all you are only yound once good luck
2007-02-07 23:05:42 · answer #10 · answered by wendy t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋