I really hope I dont get abuse from these losers that have been here for the last couple of hours! However I have a problem. I have just came out of a two year relation ship with my girl friend, she was the only girl I had been with. Now I am back on the gay scene, however, I dont ever seem to get chatted up. I am a very girly girl, not funky or rock chick, that seems to be what everyone finds hot these days. The girls I find attractive just aren't attracted to me, as im too girly, but I feel like when I wear baggy jeans etc that I am not who I am. I just want to go out and have fun, but I want to have it without changing myself. A (hot) girl told me last night that I was stunning, but I was not the 'norm' for a gay girl, and not whats 'popular' right now. How will I ever meet another decent girl whilst looking like this?
2007-02-07 22:48:53 · 5 answers · asked by Sophie 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Remember that the most important thing is that you BE YOURSELF. Don't try to act more as others want you to be, because that will get you nowhere. Sooner or later you will find a girl who will love you for who you really are. That's what matters.
As for meeting girls, there are many of ways. Some times in gay/lesbian support groups they have what's termed Friendship corner. (Not a street corner, of course), in which available single individual post their contact info indicating the type of same sex partners. In addition you can probably find bisexuals seeking for gay/lesbians. The advantage of this is that you can meet people who have gone through a background check and came out clean. Thus increasing your chances to make sure you are not hanging with the wrong crowd.
If there is not one of those support groups in your area, the best thing is to meet someone online, through http://www.friendfinder.com which is free and you can not only meet gays/lesbians, but make straight friends as well.
Have a beautiful and loving day.
2007-02-07 23:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by David G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, hon. what part of the country do you live in and how lod are u? I know a few gay gal pals that are lipstick lesbians. Don't give into culture and dress in baggy pants because it is popular. The right girl is out there for you somewhere. Do you have any gay clubs or bars where you live? If so, hit the bars, lots of women like your look, don't change just to fit it.
2007-02-07 23:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by balletguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You look like you're supposed to. Don't change, Please. You will meet someone, and when you do, that person will love you for who you really are, not some made up person. Who cares what's popular. that is something that changes with the wind. Part of being out is being able to be the person you are supposed to be. You will find someone, just be patient.
2007-02-07 23:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by ron s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. You'll find the right girl eventually. Don't be try to be something you're not to fit in.
2007-02-07 23:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by fiVe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change just keep looking - and perhaps you'll find that someone not where you've been searching.
2007-02-07 23:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋