When a couple found out that they are expecting a down syndrome or physically disabled baby,should they keep the child or abort it? Which is the best solution for both parents and child?
2007-02-07 22:42:28 · 14 answers · asked by † Iríšh † 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think it must be solely the parent's decision.
I believe that abortion should be a last option, not one to be taken mildly, but should be considered.
The parents should think about whether or not they could cope with a disabled baby - and not just baby, but a disabled child as s/he grows up.
What should NEVER happen is for the parents to have the baby and then treat it badly, not give it the care it deserves or send it off to a home for people with "problems".
My mum used to work with people with Down's syndrome, and they are loving, caring, important members of society the same as everyone else - if the parents can't give this wonderful person the life s/he deserves - then consider adoption or abortion. Why bring another person into the world to suffer? There's enough of that already!
Hope I helped a bit!
;-)
2007-02-07 22:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Krissyinthesun 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough question, it depends on the strength of the parents a disabled child is a hard lot in life for all involved, but not impossible, many disabled kids grow up and are totally productive but again it really depends on the parents strength and commitment to each other and the child. 22 years ago when my oldest son was born they said he had hydrocephilis(water on the brain) at his 4 week check up I was told "don't expect too much" he will mentally age 2 forever, well 6 months later it arrested (stopped) itself and my son missed a perfect score on his sats by 40 points and is a handsome very productive asst. mgr. at a major electronics company who is smarter then his bosses much less me! Had I known he had this problem before birth I would have considered abortion very strongly as I was young and alone I'm glad I didn't know or I would have missed a hell of a great life the kid's awesome although I know I really didn't answer your Q. as there really isn't a definative answer, I just wanted you to know that anything can happen and I wish you the best in this gut wrenching decision if you have to make it. Good Luck from NYC
2007-02-08 07:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by faldam2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT ABORT!!!! my mom was told the same thing. my mom was 5 months pregnant and her doctors YES her doctors tried to get her to have an abortion. they said i was mentally retarded and that i was going to be in a vegitated state my entire life... yet my parents were strong and said no.... that they would love me no matter how i turned out. i was their child... a few months later... i ws born. WITHOUT down syndrom or any other illness. im perfectly healthy and live a fine and normal life. my cousin had the same situation. her doctor told her that her daughter had down syndrome and that they were 80 % sure of it... kayla was born and is perfectly normal.. AGAIN... NO down syndrome!
dont have an abortion.... i have t.a.r. syndrom... its a physical condition where my arms are shorter.... but its a non life threatening condition. and yes i live a perfectly normal life. the parents should not abort their child. it is their child. its a living baby. and the child wants to live im sure of it. abortion is not the answer. afterall.... if the parents are REALLY overwhelmed and cant take it.... they could put their child up for adoption. anything is better than abortion..
good luck
2007-02-08 06:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by marine's girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant with my son, they thought he was going to have Downs Syndrome (5mm neural translucency). My mother made sure I knew I had more than one option. I stuck with the pregnancy and he is now a healthy four-year-old boy without Downs. I did think about having an abortion but I didn't think I would have been able to live with my decision.
How far along are you? Would you be able to live with the 'what-ifs?' down the road?
I am now 17 weeks along with my second child (a girl) and she may end up having severe learning disabilities or worse (I have hypothyroidism) but it's not known yet. I won't abort her, either, because...I just can't (not because of any religion or anything...I just wouldn't be able to personally live with the what-ifs).
My mother recently told me that a child is a blessing no matter how they come out of the womb. I think she's right.
Continue your pregnancy... There are many, many happy people out there who have physical or mental disabilities and they bring happiness and love to those around them.
2007-02-08 06:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's really not something I feel is my right to decide. It's up to the parents in this particular situation, only they can make the right decision, they are the ones who will live with their decision either way. I don't think anyone should judge them or make the decision for them.
It also depends on what test the results are based on. Amnio is much more acurate than a some of the other tests that are out there.
2007-02-08 07:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I had decided to terminate, I wouldn't have the most beautiful little boy right now. My son has Down syndrome and I simply cannot imagine life without him. He is clever, bright, happy (except when throwing a typical 2-year old's tantrum). God intended for me to have my son just has he is. My son was made in God's image just like everyone else. To terminate a life for these reasons is, for me, incomprehensible.
2007-02-08 15:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Smom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been told there is a waiting list for these kinds of babies to be adopted. PLEASE tell your friend this is a CHILD. No one would ever suggest you kill a 10-yr old because they have ADHD or some other disability! LIFE is ALWAYS the best answer. God bless you!
2007-02-08 06:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph's Mama 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my mate and i would keep it and love him or her for the rest of there life because their are schools out there that will help u deal with a disabled child.and work with that child for the rest of the time him or her is in the home.we would never love the child any different from child doesnt have disabled problem.they can love the same.they are gift of life.
2007-02-08 06:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by abby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course they have a right to life. they are human beings. they are perfectly capable of being productive members of society, and even if they weren't, they would still have a right to life.
it's dangerous to pick and choose characteristics which we will abort for. in some countries just being female is a reason. what if they want to abort a child because he is too short, or deaf, or too nearsighted, or born without a leg? ridiculous.
2007-02-08 06:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends on the parents ordinarily you would think it was bad to have an abortion but maybe it is the best thing for the child if you are going to rensent it and not give the baby the attention it deserves
2007-02-08 06:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by mothermayc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋