My best friends bf of 4 years just broke up with her and then she saw him in the book store wtih a new girl just 3 days later. She lost her virgenity to him and everything and I don't know any advice to make her feel better. Please someone what do I tell her?
2007-02-07 22:36:06 · 14 answers · asked by megan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He dumped her
2007-02-07 22:40:08 · update #1
She's 19 years old.
2007-02-07 22:49:15 · update #2
Her mom just made things worse she kicked her out to day and I can't get a hold of her to see where she is staying
2007-02-08 09:03:40 · update #3
tell her to forget that boy as soon as possible bcoz he is a cheater and tell your friend to make new friends.if you wish you can give her my info and believe me every boy is not like your friend's ex.
2007-02-07 22:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by aaryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crappy relationships are a part of life and learning. We ALL go through them. Let her know that she needs to worry about herself. It's obvious that this guy isn't worth the time of day, so why give him the power? By her sulking over it, even though we all want to cry and want the world to stop for us when we hurt... it just doesn't happen that way.
Unfortunately, she'll just need to chalk it up to a life-lesson. It hurts, but we all survive. Just be a good friend and keep her busy with things. Go to a concert together, an amusement park... whatever she enjoys, or perhaps you two could get together and discover something new you enjoy. Take up an art class, go to a playground, get on the swings and swing as high as you possibly can. When someone is hurting, especially over a relationship, things are tough and she may not want to do anything, but just support her and do your best to get her involved with things that will not only take her mind of him, but also may make her realize a hidden talent! Do it with her and reaffirm to her that even though the guy is a jerk, that doesn't mean everyone else in her life is. She's blessed to have a friend like you who cares so much about her!
2007-02-08 06:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That one is a tough one Megan. There are no words that will allay her suffering. The best thing you can do is BE there for her as a good friend and listener and do not tire or avoid her. She needs support. Time and eventually a new boyfriend is the only cure. Just be patient with her and also try to schedule some activities together. I know she does not feel like doing anything right now, but do insist.
2007-02-08 06:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to lose it to someone at sometime and I think after 4yrs it was not a bad decision, it's just that relationships don't always work out. I don't know how old she is but that seems like a long run for her first sexual relationship. I hope she can look back at a later time in life and remember it fondly. Keep her busy so she has less time to dwell on her pain. Everyday it will hurt less.
2007-02-08 06:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have time for her. Every breakup is painful despite the time u took together but rather because of how much emotions u had invested in it. She needs to know that u are there for her.
Unfortunately when it happens like that we try to console our friend by saying negating things about the ex, this doesnt really help because they are still in love with him. so words can rather be destructive, your actions though wil take her a long way.
You are a good friend so keep it there
Good luck
2007-02-08 07:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
olny advise you can really give her is to be strong, cause only time will help her. Maybe it was better on the long run for her to have seen him with another girl, cause at least she knows the truth. Remember you can't change other people, you can only change yourself, she has to decide to be happy. Sometimes it is like we want to keep suffering, that we love someone so much that we find hope in suffering. tahts wrong. Just have to keep going and try to forget, Just decide to be happy!!
2007-02-08 06:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by pas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isnt very much you can say.. she is hurting which is natural. Just be there for her. Let her cry on your shoulder. A hug when needed is worth more than any words you can say.
She will feel better eventually it just takes time.
Good luck to both you and your friend.
2007-02-08 06:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by Gail : 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her he loves her he jus doin tht 2 say 2 her he has got over her but if he sees her with another lad it will drive him crazy he will be contacting her and everything tell her if he lost his virginatiy 2 her he loves her after 4 years he will be missing her like hell tell her 2 enjoy flirting with other guys an not 2 worry bcz he will be back sooner thn u know it an he has missed out on summet reli good
2007-02-08 06:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds he wasn't worth the 4 years together! Life is full chances, she took one with him and got heart broke. She should take it has learning lesson. Oh it will hurt but will make her stronger!!!!!!
2007-02-08 06:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by PENNY M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she did this, she should know the conquenses. The best i think you can do is do be with her, talking to her too much makes her feel more sad only.
2007-02-08 06:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋