i'm 6 weeks pregnant and has 15 months old son, i just found out that my husband is sleeping with a girl from work. should i stay (at least until the baby is born) or should i leave??
2007-02-07 22:32:36 · 29 answers · asked by dhinie75 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave.
2007-02-07 22:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Guy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel like you have to stay just until the baby is born. Do you have somewhere else you can go? If he cheats on you now while you are pregnant, chances are he will always cheat on you. Also you will never be able to trust him knowing what he is doing to you now. If you have somewhere else to go then leave him. Make yourself and the babies happy. I would make him help support you though. Go see a lawyer and make him pay child support so you dont have to try and raise them on one income. personally if my spouse was cheating on me then he would be out the door. Maybe instead of you leaving pack his clothes while he is at work and make him leave. Just make sure you have someone with you when he gets home. Then change the locks on your doors. You dont deserve to be treated that way especially since you are the mother of his kids. Good luck and stay tough!
2007-02-08 06:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by helen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well depends on a few things but before I get to that, I have to say this: do not stay only for the childrens sake, because that will only hurt them. OK first thing to consider, can you forgive his indiscreations? Second will he stop screwing the other chick? Third is the relationship worth saving? Remember the children are better off with a situation that saves them from seeing thier parents fighting all the time, even if that means only having 1 parent at home. You have a couple of things to consider here, can you give your kids all the attention and love they need if you are always worried about your man, and is he the kind of man you want raising your children, if he is and you can forgive him and he stops hurting you the I say try to fix it, if not then take your kids and leave. good luck to you and I hope everything goes well during your pregnancy, and congrats on the baby :)
2007-02-08 06:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by faern2877 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well - stress will be bad for you and bad for the baby. I guess you need to figure out what would give you more stress - staying with his cheating self or getting out and getting on with your life.
You really have your handsful with the 15 month old and the pregnancy. Please take help from those around you and make sure you have a good support group no matter what choice you make.
You should also make sure that what you think is happening is really happening. Did he tell you he was sleeping with her or did you hear from a third party. Before you do anything you should check and see if it is true.
Good luck.
2007-02-08 06:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by CV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 16 ear old girl, and I can honestly say you are deffinitely in a bad situation. but you do have to consider a few things before you take any actions. 1. what is your source? how did you get this info on your husband? and is it reliable? 2. do you have anyone you can turn to to help yu with your son, and your comming baby?
if you can answer those questions with having a reliable sourse of information, and being able to find support, then you need to get out of the situaion. depending on your sources, i would talk to your husband 1st. reaching a full understanding with him may help the situation. or if he really is sleeping with this girl, you may be able to get him to stop on the risk of losing you. however you also face the risk that you will think about him being with this girl every time you look at him. in my oppinion you need to find someone you can go to (family, friends, ect...) and get out of this situation asap. it will be easier on you to do it sooner rather then later, and also be easier on your 15 month old, who at his age is begining to understand the roles of a mother and father, and will have greater issues if done later in his life.
I wish you luck with this. I know you are in a difficult possition.
2007-02-08 06:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by LilDaniGirl8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor thing what a time for him to do this to you. If he is just having a short fling stay with him eventhough it doesn't make it right what hes doing to you. If he is giving you the message I cant do this cant be a father as some men do panic. Sometimes they need to break from whats coming in the future for them and so he may stop this fling after seeing you haven't been scared off and thing she must love me alot and is seriouse.Sometimes a man will be scared of the commitment having a baby can be.But it's entirely up too you
2007-02-08 06:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to confront your husband first about it and see what he has to say and if he still wants you and this marriage or not or if he would rather be with thte other girl. If he wants you and the marriage and is sorry and remorseful for what he is done than stay with him and seek counseling and help for you and for this marriage. If he wants out then either he leaves or you leave. Talk with him before making your final decisions is all i am saying hon. Hugs to you today.
2007-02-08 06:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sorry to hear that. Leave. Leave now. Don't listen to his excuses. Not only is he a cheater, he could be bringing STDs home to you. That endangers your life and the life of your unborn child. Don't wait to have your baby. Stay with friends or your parents. Just get away from the douchebag and file for divorce, NOW! This dude is a loser for doing this to you! You deserve so much better. Good luck with your upcoming baby and please, get away from this guy!
2007-02-08 06:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i am so sorry to hear that !
this should be a time when you are enjoying your baby and your pregnancy, not feeling betrayed and rejected !
If you can, leave and go stay with your family, or with someone who can nurture you and your baby - focus on you and your children now and forget about your husband...
he simply does not deserve a wife and kids, being so disrespectful...
good luck !
2007-02-08 06:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by luckylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you leave make sure you take him to court..file for divorce, ask for custody if you do joint custody make sure you have primary custody , set child support and visitation just because you are Mommy ,does not matter there is no automatic custody in most places. Failure to do so could result in him taking them from you , so do not wait for him to file . most of the time the first to file wins , and yes it is better to do that first if your mind is made up to leave ..do not base your decision to leave on the kids. staying for the kids is no reason to stay. You have to make yourself secure,and happy or you will never be able to make the kids feel that way. You either forgive,and forget . or move on bottom line
2007-02-08 06:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just leave him, do you want him giving you a STD i would boot his a** to the curb, and not take him back there wouldn't be enough sorry's he could say for me to take him back you have 1 small child and you are having another and he is off cheating kick him out..
2007-02-08 06:38:38 · answer #11 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋