I'm 19, and throughout my life i've always been this shy, introvert person. I'm tired of that and i want to change but i'm afraid that it's too late and that it's not possible for me to take a fresh new start, become the kind of person i'd like to be: confident, extrovert, the kind of person you're impressed by.. Is it too late for me to change or do i still have a chance?
2007-02-07 22:25:47 · 28 answers · asked by babychi 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No, you can recreate yourself. There is a short story about a man who became the role he was acting within each new play. It is "Who Am I,This Time?" by Kurt Vonnegut. Though this is extreme, the idea behind the transformation is simply, "acting the part."
You want to change because you aren't happy. Trust your instinct. Perhaps the "real" you is the one you want to be. She has just been waiting in the wings.
2007-02-13 17:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem as I see it is that you lack confidence. I was in ways the same until I found out about things that I was knowledgeable about. Because I could now converse with others on an intelligent level it was easier to voice my opinions on certain issues. So start to read about things you are interested in and become an authority on those issues. Whenever the need arises fall back on your know how on that topic and get into the mix. It never hurts to ask a question as well and hey you are only 19, you are just a babe in the world so open your eyes, ears and intellect and absorb. It never hurts to watch the nightly news and one other show the News Hour on PBS will give you some very good insight into the world of today from people who are really good at presenting their side of the story and also asking pertinent questions about various topics affecting America today. It is never too late to change and allowing yourself to be changed is half of the battle. Too many people today are too stubborn to change or lack the will to do so. Because you embrace those changes you will make great headway in a short length of time. Gaining more experiences in life should be easy now with the internet which can also arm you to the teeth with all sorts of information on a variety of topics.
2007-02-16 06:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. PDQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it isn't too late. You are very young. I think the first step to change is want to change, so you did the first step. Keep in mind that you should work hard for that. If you want to be more confident, more extrovert and so on, you should accept yourself as you are and do the same with everybody. You also should improve your social life, why don't you invite some friends to pay you a visit or to go to the movie? Many extrovert people who I know are very open minded, are assertive and don't feel bad to show their feelings. do the same.
Good luck.
2007-02-15 14:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Jimmy K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have a chance and dont be afraid to make that fresh new start. You need to build your self esteem and dont worry what other people think of you. Some people are shy because they are worried they may say the wrong thing. But remember you are unique and your own person. I would try to find a good Christain group or club to get involved with. Volunteering your time to a good cause is another good way to meet new people and also become involved with your community. the Red Cross or Humane society is always needing help if you have them in your community. You get to meet people from all ages and it is also a good way to build your self esteem in helping others. Hold your head up high and be proud of who you are. You also may want to buy a new outfit that makes you feel good or try a new hairstyle. I know I feel better after I get my hair styled. But be happy with who you are, you are so young, do what makes you happy.
2007-02-08 06:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by helen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
It is definitely not too late. If you truely want to change, you can! You have the power to take charge of your life. Being an introvert isn't always bad though...
Some ideas on becoming more extraverted and more confident with yourself: doing a public speaking course at your local community college, getting involved with an amateur theatre company, getting involved in voluntary work at your local shelter.
Some ideas, but it's up to you to get out of your comfort zone.
Good luck!
2007-02-15 22:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Chava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too late to change but there is nothing wrong with being shy, and introverted. These type of people are better employees than the extroverts who tend to talk alot.
2007-02-15 18:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your can change anytime, has nothing to do with age. We usually associate change with age, but really it is life experience and wisdom. My personality at 19 was very different then now.
Your young, get out there and shake things up a little and dress to impress.
2007-02-15 10:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you can. When I was young I did some very wild things and some I am very ashamed of. I asked myself, "How can I become respectable?" The answer is act like you are respectable. Pretend you are what you want to be and soon you will be, and you won't be pretending anymore. I hope it makes sense. Force yourself to start.
2007-02-15 20:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by quickspend 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You still have a chance! Go for it! It's never too late. It's worth a try at least. Good luck in everything. All the best,
-Manisha
2007-02-08 06:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by Wide Ruled Paper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never to late for us to change if we wish to. Unless there is something debilitating about us. As long as we have cognitive faculties and a desire, the answer is to seek enlightenment through knowledge and practice. This is something Humans have been doing for many thousands of years. Best wishes for you on Your Journey.
2007-02-16 01:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋