i been w/ my bf 5yrs he say this yr we gettin married now he say I wanted to hear it & he don't know stay w/

Question

I been w/ my bf 4 5 yrs he told me this yr we're gettin married cuz he thinks that's what i wanna here but now he's sayin he doesn't know & I should just wait on him & be patient, it may be this yr but maybe not, he's constantly tellin me he wants to be w/ me the rest of my life, should I be patient or accept the fact that we've been 2gether 5 yrs already & it hasn't happened or be patient and wait

Answer 1

My bf & I got married after 5 years. Just because he's procrastinating doesn't mean it won't happen but I guess the more important question is..do you love each other & if he stays with you does it matter if you guys get married? If you love each other this is worth waiting for. If you think marrage is going to garrentee that you stay together well it won't so decide how big of a deal the marrage thing is for you and go from there. Good Luck!

Answer 2

The only thing you can really do is ask him if he'd be ok with it. Most men wouldn't see a problem. I do, because I think the institution of marriage is sacred between two people, not a third person when I feel like bangin out some other broad with my wife. What you do is up to you. You live your life the way you want. You just need to ask him what he wants out of the relationship, and how far he is willing to go with you in your lifestyle. As well, if you get that turned on by other people, do you think you would make a move? If so, I think you should seriously consider holding off until you find out if he's the one for you. It's ok to look, but it's not ok to act on those impulses. Whether or not it's another man or woman is irrelevant. What is is what you vow to do for each other while your married. There is a reason most ministers that do marriages read from some holy book. If you're not into religion, have your own vows done. However, it's never ok to cheat if the person you love is against it.

Answer 3

oh hunny, I would definately be patient. It's a big plunge and even for a couple that's been together for many years like yourselves it may seem risky. Its just like getting cold feet the day of the wedding, he's just getting cold feet now. All you have to do is talk to him about it, say what he wants to hear. If you really want to be with him forever then just tell him that you will wait until he is ready because you know that you will always be together. Then give him the best wedding he could imagine.

Answer 4

It depends how important marriage is to you.If you are happy to plod on without it then why bother.If however you know that you couldn't be happy long term without a ring on your finger,then you have a problem.If a man hasn't married you after 5 years together then he is unlikely to do so.You don't say how old you are or if you have children.If marriage is really important to you,give him an ultimatum.If he doesn't comply,well, there is your answer.Move on and find someone willing to make a commitment.Many times in cases like yours,the man strings a woman along for years only to dump her and marry someone they have only known for six months!Quite often,the case is that they are ready for marriage,but not to you!

Answer 5

Don't really understand the question. But if you're asking whether you should be patient or end the relationship, I would say you should be patient and stop constantly asking when he would propose you. I think it is kinda annoying for us guys when a gf keeps asking that kind of question over and over again. Well, that's just my opinion. You should be patient.

Answer 6

If the 2 of You have been together for 5 yrs , then he should know by now if he wants to marry You or not..if he doesn't by now , then You should tell him that it's either You do it or move on..

Answer 7

i don't know what the big thing is about marraige

i have been happily unmarried for many many yrs
you could even have a small gathering and say some vows you wrote
the only thing being married is good for is making lawyers money
you can buy a house,get on ins, open a checking account and not be married

Answer 8

This sounds like a merry go round my dear. I think that you should find out what he is for and insure to tell him that whatever he says to you please don't say things because he thinks that you want to hear it. Tell him what you want in life and you are ready for it and if he isn't then give him a time frame to be and if he is still stalling and seeming to be playing games with you then I suggest that you get into something much more stable and someone who isn't just looking for a playmate.

Answer 9

What do you want out of this relationship? If marriage is what you want then give him an ultimatum, if it doesn't happen move on and find someone that is looking for same things in life as you. Don't waste too much time on a dead end.

Answer 10

5 years is a long time. If he doesn't commit, and eventual marraige is important to you, I would cut my losses and move on. Give him the ultimatum- Now or Goodbye, but be prepared to walk and never turn back.