Me and my girlfriend both agree that our sex life is not as good as it was ( but somtimes it is), and we are ok with that. But the lack of sex is worrying me. When i approach her for sex she either gets mad and say's no or im tired, so i back off. Then i get told i never approch her for sex anymore. What do i do?
2007-02-07 21:51:14 · 11 answers · asked by charming 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
why dont u both set aside some "play" time.......... together. the odd night of the week... make sure u r alone and all relaxed with nice bubble bath and nice atmosphere... then spend the night exploring each others bodies all over again.
sometimes we can - without knowing it - fall into the pit of "maybe tomorrow"-land lol. its not a critical situation but can make relationships go toward the slippery slope of death.
every so often suggest this "play" night/day and just give each other time to explore, talk about wot u like and dont like, and hopefully it will open up a new fresh side to ur sex lives.
good luck. xx
2007-02-07 22:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by Cubangirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a common problem that many couples experience, so don't think you have done anything wrong. Sex should be exciting, not a routine or a habit, so maybe the problem is that you need to be more romantic, affectionate and thoughtful. Sometimes you do everything by the book, but unless both of you feel the desire and the mood is right then it's never wise to approach her for sex. If you are worried about the lack of sex, what is it you are missing? Is it the physical feeling of sex or do you miss love making, which make you both feel loved and special? If this is a problem then your girlfriend may have not admitted it to you in fear that she will seem to be blaming you for not loving her enough. Don't panic, there are plenty of advice columns on the Internet and in magazines written about this topic to help you. Good luck!
2007-02-07 23:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Chip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my wife after the birth of our daughter. Basically what I did was sit down talk to my wife about how I felt but it still went on for about 2 years I know it is very frustrating and it is confusing when your woman is saying that you never try it on with her then when you do its back off lol. But all you can do is be patient then try to do that and it will sort its self out in the end will she do other things with you apart from full sex ie masterbation or oral sex? My wife normally would give me one of them as an alternative and that kept me going for a while so to speak lol. But try not to get angry and talk to her that's all i can suggest
2007-02-08 00:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is how it is now can you just imagine how
it will be when you get marred.
Think about it is this what you want..???
I think the two of you should set down and talk
about this before you take this relationship to
the next level.
Because if this is how it is now you will a
very unhappy couple.
Good Luck.
2007-02-07 22:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by popo dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you're doing it wrong. I think this girl wants to be wooed each time you have sex. You know, the flowers, sweet nothings in her ear, a day of foreplay. Can be pretty tiresome, but there it is.
2007-02-07 21:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know the length of your relationship but it could be that it suffers from fatigue, in which case it is best to search for another partner.
2007-02-07 21:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, like a lot of women, she'd rather have a cup of tea and a hobnob....er...not that I know from personal experiance of course!
2007-02-07 21:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you doing all the work? sex is a two way thing. tell her if she initiated it once in a while it would make you feel more appreciated, maybe her a bit sexier and you could get the ball rolling again.
2007-02-07 21:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set up a sexy scenario or something to get her in the mood ... if you make her feel sexy she will be into sex more
2007-02-07 21:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her a box of chocolates ( celebrations)
2007-02-07 22:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by wizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋