i loved him more than my life but he was selfish.he was younger than me. but i sacrificed alot for him.when i decided to leave him, he tried alot to persude me to stay but i thought it`s better for him to start a new life with suitable girl. i suffered alot but after a month i know that he starts his new life with many girls and involved himself in many relations. i have the chance to spy on him. i felt great pain and don`t know what to do???
2007-02-07 21:47:38 · 8 answers · asked by beba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What are you going to gain by this? You have already decided to leave him and in doing so you have given him the green light to make a new life for himself either through one or a number of subsequent relationships.
As such,what he does now is none of your business and you have no right to intrude.
Would you like any ex of yours to be spying on you?
get on with your own life and look for future happiness instead of raking over past disappointments.
What you are considering is not good-most importantly of all it is not good for YOU
2007-02-07 21:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by bearbrain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him like u say u do then the only love u can give him right now is that of freedom. spying on him will only make u feel even worse. give yourself some time to heal from this relationship and try to be in relationships with people your own group so that age wont be a matter.
2007-02-07 21:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by water babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that everything you do to hurt another human being, and ALL of the consequences, you will see, hear, feel—and experience in many other ways that we can't imagine with our physical brains—during your life review. You will then incorporate the lessons into your next life to experience the same, so that you will never again do it to another human being. Wouldn't it be better to imagine the consequences of your actions first and respect his dignity? And what's wrong with telling him you made a mistake, and getting on with your life regardless of his answer?
2007-02-08 01:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by H. Scot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think now don't need to spy on him anymore.
It will only make you feel bad. Move on and I think
you are better than being with him.
Once something is over, never look back on it.
2007-02-07 23:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by rosesherryrose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't spy on the guy, that's creepy and wrong.
Why would you want to spy on him anyways? Do you still have feelings for him? Maybe you should talk to him.
2007-02-07 21:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on honey, you said yourself that he's started a new life - it must have been hard, but you need to remind yourself of why you did it in the first place, and avoid the places you know he will be.
good luck, you'll get over it soon and find someone better.
2007-02-07 21:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by keeping an eye on the things that he does only brings up more pain to you.
You probably remember all the good things you 2 had.
But you've got to remember why you broke it up on the first place.
You should move on just like he has done.
2007-02-07 21:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about it you dont want to appear desperate or worse be called a stalker. get on with your life. better things on the horizon for you.
2007-02-07 21:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋