pl. don't write about other types of love, they can't substitute romance & passion.
thanx
2007-02-07 21:40:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Jesus, pl. stick to my question. These are all different things: self-love, academic success, friends, family, etc. I don't know, unless you make love and babies by yourself at the end of the day, :)
2007-02-07 21:45:16 · update #1
Get your self-esteem a little higher and learn to love yourself. After that you are free.
2007-02-07 21:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there is an expectation, the desire to be loved has to be there.
When a person evolves into deep states of acceptance, and is able to see others as a part of oneself, then the love within becomes a quality of being, and unconditional. For such a person, there is no desire to be loved, but would beautifully , gracefully , and with immense gratitude acknowledge even small manifestation of love from others !
And, when a person becomes capable of unconditional love, freedom from many more things, not just the desire to be loved, would happen !
2007-02-08 10:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's really one of the Greatest questions I have come across here in the Philosophy section.... indeed the desire to be loved is a huge encumbrance!!
You just need to become wise and understand as well as realize that desire for love too is nothing but an artificial shield we create to get over our basic sense of insecurity. Once we know as well as realize that truth, it would no longer be able to act as a shield and it would be possible then to be rid of it. In other words, once we know what this desire to be loved is really all about, we would no longer have the romanticism attached to it which is what makes us FALL in love and CRAVE for love.
I hope the above makes some sense.
2007-02-08 06:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by small 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A Friend's Love says: " If you ever need anything, I'll be there." True Love says: " You'll never need anything; I'll be there."
Love me and " You'll never need anything; I'll be there."
So, Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a rightrelationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.
Don't give up the desire to be loved? Love everyone and set yourself free.
2007-02-08 08:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By becoming "spiritual" and that's not an easy thing to do. Reach for your higher chakra, higher levels of thinking. Expose yourself to everything. Talk to people who aren't like you, eat all kinds of ethnic food, satisfy yourself sexually to the fullest first before giving it up, study philosophy, music and art, try Buddhism, play tennis, read about history, learn about different lifestyles, etc.
2007-02-08 06:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be free from your desire to be loved is to be free from being human. Humans need to love and be loved.
Edit
You seem to be frustrated that no one can tell you what you want to hear.
There is no magic potion!
Love IS a part of humanity, and if you want time off from passionate love, then you need to replace it with another kind, just like everyone is saying.
2007-02-08 05:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Karla and Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make yourself utterly perfect. It's only the imperfect who are in need of love (Oscar Wilde).
Human beings are not perfect though and never will be so at some point in your life, probably when you are old and vulnerable you will need love.
2007-02-08 07:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is possible these days. unless one is a martyr. Would you set yourself free by just loving without being loved in return?- that goes for your siblings, friends, and the whole mankind in general.
But if you meant loving someone you love without expecting to be loved in return, you have to be one great martyr and apathetic(towards negative emotion eg. hurt, fear, anxiety etc.) person. It is agape for sure but this always don't work. It is like almost saying ' smile and be happy while you see/know that your beloved is making it with another girl/ or looking through the windows of girls'- highly unlikely for me, one thing is for sure. But you're right we give up the desire to be loved to set ourselves free, I don't see this as just agape but I am seeing it as the result of too much hurt, expectations, fear anxiety as outcome of having not loved in return thus the lover tends to break free to set herself free- not because she loves the beloved too much but it is the end result of too much hurt, anxiety and fear(wasting her time loving the beloved)- think about it.. I have my refutations on agape love- and I just explained my views in it. I don't believe in unconditional love, not at all, except for that of God's love to redeem us from sins.
Iknow I am way off tangent to your question but I thank you for allowing to discern my views. Hmmn, it makes me feel better now=)
2007-02-08 06:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by oscar c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you never can give up the true love, so return to fall in love
2007-02-08 05:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by HMZ d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what worked for me was to love myself. Once I figured that out..I don't feel empty anymore.
2007-02-08 05:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by shakensunshine86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋