my boyfriend of 18 months has survived cancer, instead of looking after himself and celebrate his recovery, he eats crap and drink fizzy drinks, also he rarely excise. I've spoken to him many times but he got angry and defensive. I've been through alot of stress during his cancer, i don't want to go thru it again, we are not even married. shoud i leave him? we are both 27
2007-02-07 21:04:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is his choice how he treats his body, the question you have to ask yourself is… How is that going to affect you? If he doesn’t eat right, and doesn’t exercise, how is his general health going to become? These habits will not bring back the cancer, although if he is in good health and the condition reoccurs he will be better off and stronger to fight it off and to get through the chemo. But this is not your question. What is the real one? Are you bothered that he is letting himself go to hell, or is it that he will not take your opinion to heart. What is the underlying problem? You have to do what is right for you. If you can not stay, live with, and be happy… go. If you are happy with him how he is and you don’t see him wanting to change… Look to the entire situation before you hit the door.
2007-02-07 21:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you have been through a lot of stress.. Put yourself in his shoes. being at a fairly young age ,and diagnosed with cancer then over time beating cancer. ,did you think by him eating as he wishes could be his way of celebrating life. what he eats is his business, you need to thank GOD you have him around .....Jesus you really sound like it is all about poor old you , What about him ????? If I cheated death ,and someone fussed because I ate junk food ,and soda I would put them out the door on that ***......I can understand not even being married This man has beat cancer let him enjoy his second chance , quit being a self centered beeatch. he will get his fill of the food and change his eating habits when he is good ,and ready get off the mans back
2007-02-07 21:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consistent with probability his maximum cancers is genetic, wherein case conserving a healthy diet and exercising is not any assure that he won't get it back. Is he your boyfriend or your husband? If he's your husband, you may take your vows heavily - get counseling and be supportive. If there are young infants, you surely could stay for his or her sake, i think of. once you're saying that his maximum cancers rather affected your life and happiness, you sound too youthful and egocentric to be in a relationship. If he won't be in a position to place self assurance in you, consistent with probability you may leave and supply him the possibility to discover somebody who loves him via good circumstances AND undesirable. i think of you're requesting permission to leave. i might advise having a communication together with his physician first, and consistent with probability a therapist, with the intention to be certain what to do.
2016-11-02 21:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is suffering and why is it about you? Didn't you take the vow when you married ... FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE? Now that the going got tough you want to get going? What a gal!
Perhaps I am a little old fashion. and perhaps his bad eating habits is temporary. I think you owe it to yourself and him to let it slide. Besides that day will come when you will need his understanding. And it will happen, just a matter of when.
2007-02-08 03:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to help himself, You can't help him. Its selfish of him to do that to you and not expect you to feel anything. Find a new dude and take a jog past this jerks pad and wave goodbye to him. I'm sorry that wasn't nice. Tell him you've had enough and if he's not willing to compromise "Then go back to step one". O.K. that's better... This is coming from someone who has major life threatening health issues of my own, And I'm only here (I feel) because of the LORD and those few who were there for me. He better wake up.
2007-02-07 21:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by egreen3rd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a bit of gentle pressure might help him. He has been through a lot of stress too, and may well be in denial. Could you say something like: 'I'm so glad you recovered but I'm not prepared to watch you destroy your health. This is where I'll be - get in touch when you're ready to talk about it.' Good luck to you both.
2007-02-07 21:12:38 · answer #6 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only been together for 18 months and you are not married. If he won't help himself then you do not have to sit around waiting for aftermath. Get on with your life.
2007-02-07 21:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no sister!!! Your love should not have any boundries..this is probably his way of dealing with it all. U must support him and make him understand that this is hurting you...U have come this far..plese dont give up on him...he needs you...if you are going through hell then just think what he must be going through...
2007-02-07 21:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mind that are you loving him or sympathising him if it is the later better you leave him otherwise stay with him but one thing is sure he is not going to change his attitude and its upto you to stay with him or not.
2007-02-07 21:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look around with same taste as yours....
Later in life you will b happy
2007-02-07 21:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by DON 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋