My husband and I married 2 years... and have together now 7 children... has never satisfied me sexually... only himself, bought himself so many things... for holidays etc... and calls me names daily. My kids are miserable and I am miserable, but we have two babies under 1 years old. I cant take a job because I have a newborn and I am stuck. Today he left for three hours to work out, and didnt take my call. I needed to get my baby to the doctor because she is sick. I asked him where I was and he told me " none of my business!" Funny thing is he came home, went directly to the shower and was wearing differrent clothing then when he left. HE is constantly accusing me of cheating. God I dont know what to do? Isnt someone guilty of cheating when they are constantly accusing people of cheating and dont you think its weird how he left for three hours and was wearing different clothing and then goes directly to the shower... and didnt sweat at all but yet worked out?
2007-02-07 19:52:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anna Q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce him and get your child support!
2007-02-07 19:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by kitttykitti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight: you don't have a single nice word to say about this fellow; you act so miserable that you make your kids miserable; you're nosy and suspicious and nitpicky; you try to use the children to manipulate him (if the baby really got that sick within 3 hrs, you would've called 911 first); and you post on web forums like this one to let the world know you consider your husband to be rotten in bed and worse as a human being. I'm afraid this still isn't enough background for me to answer how you can continue living with this man -- all I can say for sure is that he must be an absolute prince to let you.
2007-02-07 21:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Right 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely cheating on you. You need to do what you can to get along until you are able to leave him. Set up a bank account in your name. Even if you can only put a couple of dollars a week in it, it's better than leaving with nothing. Ask for a computerized account so you won't get any statements in the mail. You can always check your balance from the ATM. And get on some birth control if you can. You don't want to bring anymore children into this mess. Look around your area for a not-for-profit day care center. They are much cheaper than those academies, but harder to get into. My neice goes to one. Instead of paying $125 a week my sister pays $60 a week. Check to see if your state has a voucher system for day care as well. If you leave your husband this can help you pay for child care. Find out what is out there for single moms and what assistance you can get if you are only seperated. Some states may not assist women who are not divorced. If you are all miserable I would get out of this marriage. It sets a bad example to your children for them to see him treat you so callously. Good Luck!
2007-02-07 20:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Laoshu Laoshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That "none of your business" comment was uncalled for. Did you get your baby to the doctor? He feels trapped by you and the kids. I don't think he cares for you as much as you need. People are gonna suggest counseling but he will refuse. When he refuses, let him know that you are not happy with the way things are going and you will be seeking a divorce unless we can change things. He may say go ahead until he realizes you are serious. Be serious. Good Luck
2007-02-07 20:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by jax0817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when a spouse is guilty of something sometimes they project it onto the other person because it is something they just don't want to face. he feels if he accuses u of what he is doing it will throw u off track and u will be focusing on anything but what he has done. yes when someone is the guilty party they will accuse the other one of what they are doing so they can transfer those feelings and get rid of them, he is the cheater, and u have to decide what it is u want to do about it. it is best to try to get out of a marriage when your not loved, so file for divorce and child support and some spousal support, it will be hard at first, but beats living in pain and humiliation anytime.
2007-02-07 21:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A beautiful and strong compatibility exists between a Leo and an Aries zodiac sign. Both of them are unconventional and passionate people. But the Aries tries to dominate the Leo and this sign is a born ruler. This is where the conflict arises between the Leo and the Aries. However, there compatibility with each other makes them overcome these differences. They are going to be in a very happy in relationship.
2016-05-24 05:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can never understand why people in your position complain and talk about how miserable everything is but still allow some guy to climb on them and make babies. You must find something to love about him--at least 7 times you did. He is doing the control thing---and expressing a dislike for all his conditions---too many to list.You stay and endure this stuff, instead of communicating like you should be doing--better work on your issues....soon!!
2007-02-07 20:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many programs designed to help single mothers and women in your situation, don't be afraid to leave. You have a responsibility to create a safe and loving envirment for all your kids and you are failing to do that if the situation is making them miserable.
Contact a lawyer and tell them your situation and they can refer you to legal aid and other appropriate offices for your situation. And Does it matter if he is cheating? Sounds like he is but even if he wasn't you are miserable.
2007-02-07 23:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, he cheating you. why you survie like that situation? because of love? where is love in your story?
i think he onyl using you as baby keeper.
2007-02-07 20:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, you know what you know - without question. Now, what are you going to do about it?
2007-02-07 20:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋