the story goes like this...am married.used to work.now work from home.so have lotta spare borin time at hand.chat a lot.have a hubby who loves me a lot but goes early to work n comes back late n tired. now the issue here is....i try to find my frnds on the net since am not a very social person. been chattin a while now so have lots of them.they become special.they demand my time.i chat long hrs till late 4am n stuff. this thgh bothers my man he doesnt really push me to stop it.nor does he push me to stop any of my other bad habits like smoking. seems sometimes that he doesnt care or some other time that he jst wants me to handle it myself n understand it myself n stop. but then both smokin n chattin seems impossible to stop coz both have become good companions of my boredom/loneliness.wanna go out n work so that both ends eventually coz i dont smoke in public...but then since i left work 5yrs back am kinda gettin lazy thinking abt the travel n all that.am confused abt this Help!
2007-02-07 19:35:49 · 11 answers · asked by Lemme_Know 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best way to solve it is sit with you husband, talk to him about the issue and your loneliness, tell him that you want his time and is very important for you.Give time to yourself go out for sometime, best time pass for a women is going to a parlour, give proper time to yourself as you have enough of it, join some part time jobs or some hobby classes what ever you like, I am sure you yourself will feel the difference and would leave these bad habits.
2007-02-07 19:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's a matter of what you want to do, my dear.
You could, of course, stay stuck in your ways but that often breeds problems in relationships, I have seen many such cases.
I would suggest you either try and break your habits, there are many things you can do aside from vices, take up reading, or writing, or even painting, for instance.
What do you do at home for a job? Is there some way you could perhaps increase your hours and cut down on freetime?
2007-02-07 20:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sherlock H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A similar problem I have as I do my work on line from my place. But rather then chatting I do some sort of social work by solving peoples problem here, give legal advice as I am a qualified lawyer. This is how I feel I am not wasting time on chatting.
2007-02-08 18:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm you are on line instead of spending time with your family/husband? No wonder he wants you to stop.
Get up, get the family off to where ever they go, do the house work, go on the net.
when they are due home make sure you are off the net and ready to spend time with them.
or as you say get a job.
Yes it is good being on line but you need a life as well. I stay off my comp. when my husband is around.
2007-02-07 19:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by older mum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad habits slowly set in, unnoticed. When you find out about its evil nature, you had gone too far in it. Now you need to have the will and determination to get rid of it.
2007-02-07 21:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try a part time job just to get out of the house.
2007-02-07 19:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do something in your life, it will be better. You can end up being lazy forever. There allot of choice to make work, charity or etc..
2007-02-08 02:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by yogasun2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a vacation with your Man
2007-02-07 22:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sunlight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what the answer is you just don't want to admit it.
Get some counseling or your marriage is going to suffer.
2007-02-07 19:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DISCIPLINE ..... if you love to live you have to work hard for it ... not everything is served in a golden platter ... you say you're bored then find a job ... you say you're lazy to work ... then what?
2007-02-07 19:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by majal_lu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋