Is this nothing more than fantcy for mother of two kids after 14 years of marriage?

Question

This is exactly the content of the loveletter my wife wrote her classmate and she says she neither knows his email id nor had plans of deserting the family
Dear Name,
You have 3 days to leave,take care of your health and enjoy a happy life. It seems what we talked on internet are only lies. Not on my part.I don't mean you are bad. You been good in college and now also. We are not dangerous people.
You were right when you brought your wife to the lunch on Monday. It proves your sincere mentality. Anybody else comes only after your wife.But I thought we shoud meet specially as you would be leaving for US, as you are the only man in my heart. I will not try to dominate your wife as she was with through you thick and thin. Only that I want to be your friend as well. Though I am sincere and disciplined, I have become this because your phone call two years back when I was depressed gave me lot of strenght. I contacted you on mail after one year. What happened later is known to you and me

I never experienced the love, affection and security in my life as I did in your friendship that is when we met in the resort. I always wanted to be a caretaker for my family but now i am depressed and low. It may take another year for me to come there, I don't know whethr I can live that long. How could you and your wife live seperately for seven years? It makes me feel bad. But you two can talk on phone and net without fear unlike me who is always afraid. I don't mean you will not be angry with me when we live together, but there is love and responsibilty in it. It is 4AM. I go on writing like this. Try to understand and do not forget,please.with love&love&love Name who needs you a lot. I never wrote this deep to anybody previously.{end}
And this woman says she always loved me though she slept before and after this letter. I do not know why she cut off this. She says she sent and received only 10 mails. Can I trust her? Is she lying? What will be our future if we stick together?

This letter is written six months back and I found it accidentally last month. She says she only talked about family matters and he was even introduced to me when he visited us. He is happily married and committed to his family though he loved my wife during college days when she chose me over few others and against her parents.

Answer 1

to me it just seems like they dated years ago, and she was in love with him, but he broke her heart a long time ago, and when they meet again a couple years ago she probably fell back in love with him and they more than likely sleeped together, hence the last part of the letter, but it looks like she probably won't be sleeping with him anymore, if you love her and want to still be with her i would just drop it, so on your part i would not ask her or give her any grieve, just FORGET about everything that has happened, cause it will NEVER happen again, thats a garuentee, but if you push her into telling you the actuall truth, you will be kissing your marriage and live GOODBYE, and for what something you already know the awnser to. move one and enjoy your time together, cause in the end, what she did will only make her love you more.

Answer 2

If I told you leaving her would fix it and that it wouldnt change your relationship with your children, I would be lying. It will change. But can you survive it? Yes. And you will lfind a way to be happy and fulfilled. Yu will move on and find love again only this time it will not be dysfunctional. Your children may be angry or hurt at first but if you are patient and allow them to grieve they will survive and thrive too. There is a good chance that you coudl get custody. Remote chance but still possible. Regardless how important is it to stay married so you can be in your child lives but showing them that marriage is about putting up with anything your spouse dishes out. You will teach your daughter to accept a cheating abusive man and that would really break your heart. Show her that there is a point when you dont put up with what your spouse does if they are not repentant and willing to get help.

Answer 3

Then what is her explaination? She may have no plans of leaving but she has a big secret. She has met this guy recently and cares very deeply about him. And if anyone says you shouldn't have read her email, ignore them! They check behind us all the time.

Answer 4

how old is the letter? it sounds more like they were helping each other through some difficult times as friends...but then I don't know these people so I couldn't know for sure...but there is nothing in there about how bad you are or how she craves his touch...I don't see a love letter here...I see a good bye letter here. "take care" "Happy life" at the end she hints at how he helped her through a depression...you are just overly coc-cerned...Relax she isn't cheating.

Answer 5

Dude your wife has totally been cheating on you. Saying she doesn't know his email id? Whatever she is a liar obviously cos it went on in the letter about her talking to him online. For years! Not to mention she met him. Wtf? You need to confront her. It sounds like a break up letter but still it's the fact that she WAS doing it

Answer 6

"as you are the only man in my heart"
That is the only part I would be worried about, ask her what it means.
She is respecting his wife, and it seems he was able to help her in the past.
It doesn't really sound like she was planning to leave, I would believe that part.

Answer 7

u need to ask yrself why did she have the need to have contact with another man? what hs been lacking in her life? if nothing, then u need to sit her down & ask her what is it she is looking for with another man?

Answer 8

Sounds like she's ready to go with this person, ,you should confront her!