My husband and i have been togther for two years...we love each other very much.I by nature am very possesive so is my husband we both know about each others possesiveness.I asked him one day whether he loves me or his mother the most.He told me he loves his mother.I was surprised at least he couldve kept quiet or have deviated from the subject.I would never say that one after marraige should forget his\her old ties.But to me my husband is most important.I wish it would be the same for him.Now when i am with him I have a feeling he is not entirely mine and iam afraid to disclose everything to him.Is it right on his part to love his mother more than me when he is my whole world.
2007-02-07 19:16:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You probably should have married an adult. To be charitable it is likely that if you asked him the question ten times you would get 5 answers as you and 5 as mum.
Part of the English wedding vows included the promise to place no other person before your partner. I still think it is the way it should be and if you do not, don't get married.
2007-02-07 19:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by John B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're going through. I've been married for almost 4 years. I didn't ask him who he loved most...me or his mom...but i already had this gut feeling. My husband is the youngest of her 3 boys and he is the only one that she can rely on. For this, its always like im put to the left everytime she needs something(which is daily). I kind of resent her because. My husband was a cosigner to her house(this took place before we met)and well she lost the house and didnt tell him this information until she had one week to get out of the house. Therefore...im bothered by her presence...anywho your situation probably isn't as bad as mine...but I think it's important that you tell your husband how you felt about that answer he gave you. Talking to one another is the best and should be the first choice for a solution. Good Luck!!!
2007-02-10 10:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by shantia0202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not really right but some men do have strong ties with their moms, and I think I would be careful as well, no good in giving her (via him) ammunition if she is the type to use it. My mother in law could see no wrong in her little boy (even when he was 40) but he did love me more than her.
guess the problem will go away with time.
2007-02-08 03:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by older mum 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every guy loves his mother the most. Lets see ,,hmmm,, he's known you for 2 years,, his mother had him and has been his mother for at leat 18,,,, hmm ,, who should he love the most. Ask him again in 10 years.
2007-02-08 03:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What was u thinking when u ask him who he loved most u or his mother..im sure u made him feel uncomfortable by asking this,
2007-02-08 03:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by sally d 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it's not. We need to leave and cleave. You need to explain to him, lovingly that you are his first love.
2007-02-08 03:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by yaabro 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stupid, u have a good hubby ... who is open and care fr his parents....... just keep going as is .. as u said..........
2007-02-08 03:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Racingred 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋