early last yr for 3 or 4 months hubby had a problem with me coming to his work he would say stuff like."Are u really coming in i dont know why u have/want to no reason to or "i wish i worked where no relatives were allowed or "i though u had stuff to do tomorrow" He has been working there for 10 yrs and before this he NEVER had a problem with me coming in and NOW he doesnt have a problem with me coming there.Like i said he has worked there 10 yrs and in those 10 yrs i have only been to where he works like 5 or 6 times and last time i was there was over a yr ago so its not like i am there constantly..during this time he would say to me "there is a reason u wanna come in" and i would say no there isnt i just wanna come and looked around(He works in a thrift store) and i would say to him..There must be a reason why u dont want me there and he would say "no there isnt"..Been happily married 16 yrs and he is a good man and a great husband.
2007-02-07 19:04:10 · 11 answers · asked by sally d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Like i said he is a good man and a great husband so i know he wouldnt have been cheating on me cause the only place he goes is to work and then comes home SAME time EVERYDAY and i know what people are gonna say "he could be doing that at work but he is wayyyyyyy to busy lol and no im not in denial or being naive.. i know my husband.
2007-02-07 19:06:45 · update #1
then holly why did u bother answering lol
2007-02-07 19:08:03 · update #2
and he always said he was just joking but yet kept saying these things
2007-02-07 19:09:14 · update #3
lol "a rest from me" lol
2007-02-07 19:17:58 · update #4
Well j o i know my husband u dont he would never cheat and especially not with another man lol He isnt gay lol
2007-02-07 19:42:11 · update #5
Maybe he was busy working and didn't want distractions. Maybe he had other plans which you were disrupting. I don't mean necessarily infidelity. Possibly he wanted to buy you a present, wants to see the doctor about something he is embarrassed about or doesn't want you to worry about or maybe he just wanted to sit in the park, watch the birds and think about nature.
Possibly he even thought that you were behaving suspiciously and wanted you to stop without having to confront you.
If the rest of what you say is fact you need to think a bit outside worse case scenarios and look for an Innocent explanation.
2007-02-07 19:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get it all out is to confront him about it so that he has a chance to tell you the truth 1st. If no results come from that then just casually ask around about his habits to his coworkers. Only God really knows what is really going on with him at work. You are his wife and have all the right to know what is going on. Not to say anything bad about him or anything. But you never know if he is having an affair with another women or man. Now a days one can be surprised with anything. I'm not telling you to be super nosy and be always on the look out and snooping around with his things. Then that means that you have no trust in him at all. But it does not hurt to check every once and a while. I got to admit that most of us women will always have a little bit of a curious in us.
2007-02-08 03:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by J O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have been happily married for the past 16 years, so why the sudden lost of trust or why have doubts about what he's doing or how he behaves now! why?
if i've been married for 16 years, the level of trust in the relationship is, i would say, good & strong.
i wouldn't say that it wouldn't break or fall, but give him time to adjust or bring himself together. you have put in 16 years , so what's the fuss to give more time.
on the other hand, i'm curious why do you want to be at his work place anyway! its his workplace not yours!
2007-02-08 03:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by mombok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the bloke a chance! He's going to work so he can have a rest from you. Don't start infringing on his sacred space or he probably will find some other form of escapism.
2007-02-08 03:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by rob b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his place of work is his get away from reality until he has to come home. And I don't mean that in a bad way either. Men are just like that. They like their time away from the house. If you've had a wonderful 16yr. marriage, then maybe that's all it is. He likes his peace during the day.
2007-02-08 03:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by Aimee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
May he is busy and would rather see you at home when he has time to pay you some attention. Or others may tease him and say you are there to check up on him.
2007-02-08 03:19:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just dosen't want to be bothered at work, understandible. He's got a job to do and he'd like to get it done as fast and easily as possible without distractions. I wouldenrt worry about anything, he just has good work ethic!
2007-02-08 03:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by ievi1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may want to keep an eye on the situation...seems like something may be up..He should not mind your coming by, like you said it is not like you are stalking him...sounds fishy to me...
2007-02-08 03:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is embarrassed by his job, doesn't get the respect and glamor there that he gets at home, or maybe he is embarrassed by you, appearance or lack of education..
2007-02-08 03:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My answer is the same as before.
2007-02-08 03:06:49 · answer #10 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋