for married pple...?

Question

if one day after a period of time of marriage, u meet another gal/guy that u like n wish to be with for the rest of ur life...
would u try to go into a relationship with them?
u still love ur wife/husband but then u really want to be with the other person...
why n wat makes u do that?
can give some reasons why a person would do that?

is it because the person u married is not really the one that u thought he/she is???

Answer 1

there are so many reasons and rationalizations. Growing apart, falling "out of love", boredom, anxiety, the list goes on and on.
My parents were married and after 22 years of marraige and 3 children, my dad left my mom for a girl half his age..they are still together and happy. I think its a devastating time for both parties but..I think its important to be happy. If your spouse is telling you that theyre interested in someone else, you should let them be free and maybe they will see that in the end youre the one they want to be with..and maybe not but..you should allow them that time to see. That way they wont end up being unfaithful..if they havent already been.

Answer 2

The grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side of the fence. After you've been married for awhile, you find out all of the irritating little or big habits of the other person, all their idiosyncracies and such. Then, rather than being an adult and ignoring the little stuff and working through the big, you see someone else and think that SURELY they have no irritating little problems, so let's ignore our marriage vows and try the other person instead.

OF COURSE the person you married is not the person you thought he was. Marriage changes people, as does getting a new job, having a baby, moving, having a parent die, going through stress at work.

Regardless, marriage is for life. The vows are sacred before God, and the Bible says that God hates divorce. When your eyes and thoughts wander, you need to remember that you have become one with someone else, and it is this other person who owns and deserves your kindnesses and thoughts and love. You would, incidentally, not want to be treated by your spouse the way you've described.

Answer 3

All too often people think the grass is greener on the other side. It never is. Sure that person may seem wonderful, because there are no other stresses in the relationship. Try throwing in some of the factors you have with your spouse and you will more than likely find that your spouse was the better person all along. Sometimes life tries to cloud our judgment. Don't let it.

Answer 4

Attracted with someone new is a normal. But when u start wishing to be with her/him for the rest of your life, i think u should back to your commitment at the first time you decided to marry ur spouse.
Remember ur commitment, ur promises. Especially in case u still love ur spouse. Marriage is a sacred thing... one for a lifetime.

Don't try to start making a relationship with him/her. Once u start,u will drown...

Answer 5

That's just a load of S***. If you made a committment to that person you should defintately stay with that person forever unless of coarse there's some abuse. It's normal to get feelings for someone else but it what you DO with those feelings that make a differnce. You don't just FALL in love with someone else. There is usually a period of time where you're talking privately and sharing inapporopriate feelings. By then you've dug too deep. You need to high tail it out of there and run home to your spouse. Just remember, once a cheater alwyas a cheater.

Answer 6

Marriage is a lot more complex than just being about love. For example, you can love somebody, marry them and they do nothing but make you feel uncomfortable with criticism or you find out that living together is not working due to differences of culture, language, religion etc. If a marriage breaks down it should be ended and then if you meet someone else that you think it will work with you are free to try again.

Answer 7

I wonder how much time you spend with this new person whom you say you like and feel you really want to be with , I wonder if you have these feelings for this person cause you have cheated on your spouse I hope not ? You say you love your spouse , remember Marriage is not something you just throw away , but if Your not happy in your marriage and you feel that its time to separate , don't leave your spouse for another person if you feel the marriage is over than you need to be on your own for awhile to do some soul searching and listen to your heart to find if your doing whats right for you.

Answer 8

It is absolutely normal and possible to have all of those feelings!

I personal know from experience that its so -called real love when the 2 first meet - but often one or the other loses interest due to whatever the reason and wants to explore .....this is ok ...but one MUST be honest first and tell the partner that he/she wants to leave !
I truly feel that when one wants to commit for a life time ...they need to be ABSOLUTELY SURE ....that this is the right one for them! For me love hit me right between the eyes and i knew he was my soulmate ....we are still VERY inlove and have a wonderful marriage!
Trust , unconditional love, honesty , great sex , that spark, the weak knees, dedication, care, sharing are all important in a relationship....if that disapears ....then one will wander elsewhere!!
Hope this helps a little and good luck to you !

Answer 9

Sometimes people grow apart, this is especially true if the couple married young. As you get older you change, mature and set goals for yourself. If you and your spouse are not moving in the same direction and trying to achieve similar goals it's difficult to maintain intimacy(emotional and subsequently physical). It is possible to fall out of love-that doesn't mean you don't still love and care for the person you married it just may mean you don't have the same feelings for them as you once had. Or maybe he/she just turned out to be an A**hole

Answer 10

Some people just really don't know how to be faithful. They get bored and think that seeking out sex with someone else with add some excitement to their lives. What they really need to do is put some time and energy into their marriage and figure out how to bring back the spark.