What shude i do does she love me or not?
allright my question is ive been hanging out with this girl allot and she asked me for my number and i gave it to her then we started going to movies and to dinner and i got her this necklace and she relly liked it and so on and so on weve been doing this about 2 or 3months then one night we wer out at a movie and after the movie i told her that im falling in love with her and she said that she didnt know what to say then she said she thinks of me as friend but she still wants to go to the movies and dinner and stuff and now i dont know it seems a bit wierd becuse she still flirts with me as if nothing has changed i need some advice fast becuse i need to know if im just wasting my time with here or if a scared her becuse it was to soon becuse it fells like im just something on the side. man this is relly tearing me up inside im happy when im around her but sad when im not.
2007-02-07 18:51:38 · 7 answers · asked by reapers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she also ofers to pay for her self but i ushally tell her to put away the money and i got the bill we both have jobs thoghe money isn't an issue.
2007-02-07 19:12:12 · update #1
oh and by the way im not just trying to get into her pants i relly do love her thats the farthest thing on my mind right now and she know that.
2007-02-07 19:17:01 · update #2
Maybe she just thinks it's to soon to be saying the "I love you's". Give her some time to get to know you a little better and then see what happens.
2007-02-07 18:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She does not want to be with you. She likes the attention you give to her and doesn't want that part to stop.
She probably enjoys being admired and to a certain point, pursued. That doesn't mean that she wants an intimate relationship with you. If you continue seeing her while you have these feelings for her you are likely in for a big heartbreak.
Eventually she will find someone she likes and you will be forced to watch her and probably hear her gush all over someone else.
The best advice I can give is to take a real break from her. Don't be mean just start having a lot of other things to do. It will do a couple of things for your situation.
First it will (after some time) allow you to re-evaluate your feelings for her. It is easier to put out a fire if you are not standing in it. It will also give her time to think about what she wants. It will probably be that she misses you but still doesn't want a relationship. Although there is the slimmest of chances she could start to miss you and realize that she doesn't want to miss out on a chance at happiness with you.
Whatever happens just remember who you are and don't compromise that. Also, don't be too hard on her. She is just working according to her instincts as well.
P.S. You didn't mention who is paying for all of this going out. But if it has been mostly or all you then she is taking advantage. If she just wants to be friends than she should be paying her way!
Great Luck!
2007-02-07 19:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by smikeymouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are prolly not waisting your time, I just think that maybe she just wasn't ready to hear those words from you just yet...if she still flirts you can bet that she still has a very strong interest in you but she is happy with things the way they are and is not ready to move forward. If she doesn't seem to progress after a couple more months then I would kick her to the curb but give her a chance to be ready for the Big LOVE word...just keep an eye out for something that might provide a good distraction while you wait for her to make up her mind about you...if she knows that you are kinda cooling off she might suddenly realize what she wants...and give you the green lights.
2007-02-07 19:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you as a friend, not a lover.. yet. Don't feel like you are wasting your time, it's a good feeling when you feel happy around someone. At least she likes to hang out with you, that's a good start. GIve her more space, if you call her 3 times a week, reduce to once a week.. or don't even call her at all. Reduce the amount of the attention that you are giving her... and see how she reacts.. you are not playing but you need to protect yourself too.
2007-02-07 19:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by ms.knownothing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a sweet guy, and you've been kind enough to be honest about how you feel, that's important.
You let this girl know how you felt and she told you that she wasn't interested in a relationship like that. She wants to be friends and nothing more. Even from your detailed question, I was unable to judge whether or not she is using you for free food and movie nights or if she really does care about you as a friend.
I would encourage you to be cautious when dealing with this matter and to seek counsel from an older, trusted adult.
2007-02-07 18:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Katy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, accept her as a freind, you will find that you will get more enjoyment out of your relationship and it will tear at you so much. you will then be free to move on with out any guilt?
2007-02-07 18:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Steve B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave that feeling towards her...
be a good friend...if you cannot do so ..leave her....
or wait for a little bit time......
guys can love any girl (friend)at any time..
but girls cannot consider one as her lover ...(she may have herown ideas about her lover.)
so be honest and do not be a fool..
2007-02-07 19:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by Cheers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋