mad. I am 7 years younger than my husband and i had more finanical standing than he did when we meet. He also has 4 girls. i want to go to court and fight for them but he just keeps draging his feet what should i do.
2007-02-07 18:37:19 · 15 answers · asked by sbetty8 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This guy is bad news. Think with ur head not ur heart! A lot of baggage is not good.
2007-02-07 18:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How come you want to get the girls? Is their mother an unfit mother? If their mother is a good mom, it's going to be really hard for you to get custody of them. You should do what is best for the girls. Does your husband think his ex is a bad mom? If he is dragging his feet, maybe, just maybe, he doesn't want custody of the girls.
My husband has a 7 year old son from a previous relationship. We have him every other weekend and we just had a baby 5 months ago. My husband doesn't like to make his ex mad either...but that's just for the simple fact that she make our life hell when she's mad. Sometimes it makes me mad that he always gives in to her but I know it's because it's better that way for his son. When his ex is mad she's not a nice person and says mean things and then my step son gets mad at his dad.
Being in a broken family relationship is extremely hard. Do you get along well with the girls? How are the girls going to feel if they know you are trying to take them away from their mother? It's such a touchy subject. I guess you should just sit down and talk to you husband about the custody thing. There's a reason why he is dragging his feet. Find out what it is and go from there. Your life is going to change a lot if his daughters come to live with you and it won't be easy. I wish you the best of luck whatever the outcome of these uneasy situation may be.
2007-02-08 02:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by kerri_lynn01 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should stay out of it, it is his ex wife(she was there when you married him) his kid's, you haven't adopted them. You only get to nag him about thing's to do with the house and car, and getting a job if he needs one. Other then that leave the poor man alone, his kids and ex are not your's. sounds like you have a control problem, get some help.
He will be needing wife number three, if you don't.
2007-02-08 03:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How are you happy if you fight all of the time over his ex-wife. He must fear that he makes her mad that she will keep the children from him. I do not understand why he goes along with whatever just so she will not get mad, He needs to be as concerned about your getting mad. Do not pressure him into going to court to get his girls. He must come to that decision himself and then share it with you.
2007-02-08 02:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It will just complicate the things further if you keep forcing him to do something he does not cherish.Let his feelings take their own course to settle down.You can give him positive support by not mentioning her negatives,be caring when he feels down,doing something new which takes away his focus from her-like having variety and higher frequency in being close to each other,getting more interested in his daughters and not reminding him of his age.Believe me men are more touchy about their age than women as they take it as being reminded of lesser physical energy.
Since u two are happy together ,it won't take much to get rid of this small problem .Just a little attitude adjustment.
2007-02-08 02:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you have to do is stand by your husband and follow his wishes because if they're his children with the ex wife and you keep fighting about it's not gonna get better cause he has to she what ever it is you see for himself, and when he's ready you just be by his side
2007-02-08 02:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie-Pie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't sound like there is anything for you to do, but plenty for him. He needs to stop worrying about making her mad and worry more about making you mad. You live with him, you are his wife now, so your feelings should come first and foremost. I need a little more detail on the daughter situation, but definitely find something terribly wrong with a father that doesn't want to fight for his children. Could you post more detail about that?
2007-02-08 02:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when you marry someone with an ex and children, these problems come too...the children are between the husband and wife..If they are in a happy healthy atmosphere and he does not want to go to court, let it alone...
2007-02-08 02:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
make her mad about what? when he was divorced there was an agreement drawn up about the children and her. this should include money (of course) visitation and parental conduct. is she a reasonable person? can you talk with her? if there is a possibility of talking woman to woman in an adult manner. make sure you point out that none of this is the children's fault and they should be left out of the bickering. everyone involved needs to put the anger, resentment and finger pointing aside. no one starts out wanting to be divorced. but it happens. turn the page and start enjoying life.
2007-02-08 02:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by Kim C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he doesn't want his kids living with him. Maybe you should just ask him flat out.
As for making the ex mad, is she vindictive? Does she punish him by not letting his kids visit? Your husband doesn't have a problem be confrontational with you so why does he have a problem with the EX?
2007-02-08 02:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by Kris 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His ex wife has a bond with him for life eventhough they are not together that you cannot change...his kids are the bond with his ex wife he probably feels some obligation to his kids, but knows he has to be on good terms with her also this is something you have to seriously discuss with him, good luck.
2007-02-08 02:42:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋