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okay... im only 14 i get it, but for my age ive seen a lot of ****. from heroin to pot, up and down the scale... but this... even goes far for me. Hes 16 and does pot, e, heroin, reefers, cocaine, speed and like 2 other things... hes tried to make me chain different drugs together in the same trip and i really need to figure out how to cut him off from drugs. hes barely passing his classes, the ones he goes to that is, hes been thrown out of his house 3 times cause his dad doesnt respect him, he fights with everyone in his family... i know he just needs to get cut off but i dont know all his connects...

please give me suggestions on what to do!

2007-02-07 18:26:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

when i said he tried to chainthe drugs, i meant he was smacked already and was trying to get me to do whatever he had with him... ive already told him i dont do drugs quite a few times whens hes high though he forgets things and he know how to fight too unfortunately

2007-02-07 18:43:25 · update #1

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Listen to me the worse thing you can do for a friend is leave them and ignore them when they on drugs..trust me i know i was the friend on drugs all my so called mate ditched me and i was left alone which made me wana take those drugs again so i could take the pain away. To this very day im still suffering badly from it.. my advice to you is talk to your friend and tell him what will happen to him if he keeps taking these drugs. Firstly make him stop the heroin and the coc,they are the two main drugs, he wont be able to go cold turkey trust me, then he needs to cut down the speed and im thinking hes probly on lsd aswel.. he must cut both of these down,untill he can stop completly. Your friends then going to be on e for a long time and i mean long so hang in there and if eventually he stops he will just be on the pot now, i know you want him to stop completely but the truth of the matter is,he will prob be on pot for the rest of his life... its just a fact you have to face.. unless he wants to stop will he. Your friend however must want to stop in order for the above to take place... Tell him about rehab..i would not suggest calling a rehab cause they will come and fetch him and make him go cold turkey, and trust as soon as he's out of rehab he'll be more amped than ever.. okay well i hope i helped and please im begging you... dont give up on your friend its the worst thing you can do

2007-02-07 18:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You can't do this on your own. You at fourteen, let alone anyone of any age all, can not take on all the responsibility of your friends life choices. You have to realize that while you can try to be the best friend you can to him, you can't take on the load of saving him from all his troubles. It's much to heavy for you to carry by yourself. I'd advise you to get some people involved that are experts in helping kids like him. Maybe tell your school counselor, try to get him in some drug-free program, something of that sort. And I don't know if you believe in God or not, but I really encourage you to pray for this guy with all your heart! I've known of many lives that were totally turned around by God. Praying for this is one of the best things you could ever do. God loves your friend like crazy and would love to help him just as much as you do, more still, if your friend's willing to accept God's help. But most of all, realize that this guy can't and won't change unless he makes the decision for himself. No one can change that.

You sound like a very caring friend. I'll pray for him!

2007-02-08 02:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by mandamandapanda 3 · 0 0

First, when you say tried to get you to chain different drugs do you mean he wanted to take them or that he wanted you to take them? He may choose to do this but let him talk you into any of it.
You can't cut him off, if he wants the drugs he can always find connections, he has to want to stop.
You can talk to him though. Tell him how much you care about him and that you don't want to see him mess up his life, mess up his body, or worse, die. Let him know that if he ever needs to talk to someone you will be there for him. Talk to a school counselor or call child services your self, this kid needs a stable home. Talk to your parents if you can, they can be helpful.
Heroin is a hard drug to get off of even if you really want to, your friend has a hard road ahead of him.

Remember, he has to WANT to get off the drugs, you can't force him to if he doesn't. Sometimes we have to let people do what they choose no matter how much it hurts us to see it. Let him know that if he wants to get off the stuff you'll be there for him and then distance yourself from him. If he chooses to get clean you guys can be friends again.

2007-02-08 02:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0 0

ive seen a lot of **** too... im not saying this is the only thing to do.
but if you are really worried and you have already tried talking to him one-on-one on how you REALLY feel and how you are concerned....
.....if you feel you have talked to him as much as you can and you arent getting to him....


.... there is the school authority, school counselors, and his parents.... or your parents....

ask around before 'telling on him' though.
talk to each of those people (principle, counselor, parent) and ask 'for instance, if a friend was doing *such n such* what would you do and would you really be able to help him without him getting hurt....?' and leave it at that....

....if you are scared of getting him in trouble or losing a friendship.... but if they were a real friend.... and you did have to get them serious help, if they were your REAL friend, in the end they would thank you.


good luck.

2007-02-08 02:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by woman 1 · 0 0

girl, you can't help every lost little doggy you find. It is something he has to do, all he will do is drag you down with him. The best thing you can do is get your self on the right track, stay in school, if he likes you enought , he will try and clean him self up, and join you. But, don't wait on him, pick a goal and work hard toward's it...remember, nothing comes easy.

2007-02-08 02:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by 007 3 · 0 0

its tough for me to say this because for 8 years (up until exactly 3 weeks and one day ago) ive never said no to any drug whatsoever (pot, coke, speed, e, special k, oxy, and dozens of pills i have no idea what they were). if this guy dosnt go to rehab he WILL die. no question about it. he might hate you, but you have to call the police (non-emergency line) and tell them about it. chances are, after he gets clean he will realize that you saved his life. even if he hates you over it you have to know its the right thing to do. if you dont, and he dies from an overdose, how do you think you will feel? im sorry to say this because i know im being a hypocrite, but he needs to go to rehab. and you have to be the one to make sure it happens. if you dont, who will? if you dont, and he dies, you will regret it every day for the rest of your life. do the right thing, good luck.

2007-02-08 02:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by somedude 2 · 1 0

tell a counselor at your school or call a drug help line thing. tell him you really want to help him and its not good for him does he kno that hes hooked and in trouble? cuz some people dont even kno. but dont abandon him, he is going to need you there for support and u need to give it to him.

2007-02-08 22:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by samantha c 1 · 0 0

Tell him that if he does not stop you will no longer be his friend. Avoid him for some time and see what happens. But please remember that he has to take the decision - u can only support him.

2007-02-08 02:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0 0

You can not help him ,unless he want you to help him, the more you try, the more he is going to do what he want to do, he will probably have to hit rock bottom before he know himself that he need help to stop.

2007-02-08 03:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by I am women 6 · 0 0

it is very tough to make somebody choose not to drugs especially if they have alots of problems...

2007-02-08 02:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by mei_77 2 · 0 0

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