i love dis gui ..n flirted wid him ..dne he sed he loves me 2 n proposed me ...bt i rejected cuz i have fear of comitment ..now dis gui is lyk kinda sad dese daiz ..n i fear of loosing him ..now i cant evevn dare 2 flirt wid him .........did i do a mistake ..i m confused .....i rely wnt 2 spend quality tym wid dis gui ...i mean ...i wnt 2 be wid him ..bt m scared tat wt if d relationship doenst wrk out ...wut if my mom or our skool staff cms 2 kno n my repo ius spolied ...bt i cant resrsist toking 2 him atleats 1s per day ..is dis love ..n if yes how do i get bak 2 him again ???plz advise ...m truly sad
2007-02-07 18:03:32 · 16 answers · asked by kamya aggarwal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i love this guy ..n flirted wid him ..then he said he loves me 2 n proposed me ...bt i rejected because i have fear of comitment (m scared to go into a relationship)..now this guy is like kinda sad these days ..n i fear of loosing him ..now i cant even dare to flirt wid him .........did i do a mistake ..i m confused .....i really want 2 spend quality time wid this guy ...i mean ...i want 2 be with him ..bt m scared that wut if the relationship doenst wrk out ...wut if my mom or our school staff cumes to know n my reputation is spolied ...bt i cant resist talking to him atleats once per day ..is dis love ..n if yes how do i get back to him again ???plz advise ...m truly sad
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2007-02-07 18:17:03 · update #1
you are in love kamya !
tell him that youlike him but as of now you cant commit
it should work all the best
2007-02-07 21:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 05:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your going through this but you did kind of lead him on to much you should try to discuss things with him talking is the best way to heal things I know for a fact I've had to suck it up and face those fears. You need to tell him that your not ready that you like him and you just want to take things slow just hang out a few times as friends then go from there. But you shouldn't care about what your school and parents think you know what I was always afraid of commitment myself and I met this guy he was great sounds like the guy you like to and we'll I had to tell myself that "You only live once" you don't want to go through life wondering what you could of had when you could live it you learn by experiance. My parents disowned me for a while and the school didn't help with all the bad rumors and harassment I went throught to be with this guy but i found my true friends who supported me and my parents when I let them meet him gradually got to like him things never stay bad not even your worse problems take it slow but give it a chance Okay GOOD LUCK
2007-02-07 18:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jess_Eka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has happnd wid me 2!!if u really have any feelings for him!!go get him
u must ask ur inner voice
but many prblm like school prnts arises this is difficult may u both can wt for 1 yr more n be frnds n see
2007-02-08 01:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by IYER S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it's a bit hard to understand what you are saying becasue you've got a really 'different' way of spelling and grammar!...
Anyway I think you should see a Psychologist and work on this fear of commitment. Tell this guy your problem, and if he really loves you then he will understand and wait for you to work on your issues.
But if this fear of commitment is an easy way out for you - and if it's easier for you to beileve that you really love him BUT you cant enter into a relationship becasue you are afraid, you could be fooling your self and in return breaking a poor guys heart.
So Grow up and take responsibilty ofr your actions.
Think straight. If you truly love him, then try to work it out. If you dont love him and only want to flirt around pelase let him go ( cos he obviously loves you to want to marry you). Dont use him for your selfish reasons.
2007-02-07 18:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by sapphire_wisdom 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
NO you have done no mistake,don't feel sorry.
tell him the exact thing you feel,
tell him that you are not ready for a relation,
tell him you need some more time.
AND
work on your feelings
work on your decision,
go far away from him and see,is he still in your heart,do you feel that is the only one who makes you happy,is the only one who cares the most about you.
then i think that's LOVE
2007-02-07 20:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by sam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you didnot make a mistake but you can tellsomeone about your feelings only when you are ready to commit in your retaionship.so dont ask for others advice and do what your heart says .I think this will solve your problem to a large extent.all the best
2007-02-07 18:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by susheel k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is some emotion in ure heart for him that u r trying to stop. u ure self dont wanna beleive that u have some feelings for him. first decide if u wanna be with him. if u wanna be with him u need to express ure feelings. its better u just be freinds with him as u r still in school. its too early to commit.
2007-02-07 20:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
s u did a mistake now u hava a good chance for showing your love 14 feb
2007-02-07 18:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by rani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen sweety,,,love is blind but lovers not.. if u r in school den u r not so mature to take decisions...so just say him that i want to be with u as a freind...live n spend time with himm...after some time if u realise that yes this is the same person whom u love den say him i love u...n marry him..bcos marry those who loves u ,,not to whom u love
2007-02-07 20:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by isha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't read your spelling, But getting back to him, you can write emaiil to him, and tell him that you wasn't clear with your feeling, and after you think few days, you do like him, and wish him to come back to you. I believe he will be happy if you said so.
2007-02-07 20:02:08 · answer #11 · answered by Caring Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋