Dont Get Me Wrong. I Love My Wife And Would Never Cheat On Her. But Her Elasticity Is Gone. She Just Isnt As Snug As She Used To Be. Its A Complete Turn Off. Its Like A Limp Noodle Is Wrapped Around Me. I Need The Tight Friction. I Am A Decent Sized Man So For Her Not To Be Tight On Me Says A Lot About How Many Men She Has Been With In The Past. Men That Obviously Were Much Bigger Than Me. What Do I Do? Men Cant Fake It Like Women Can. How Do I Tell Her To "Get A Grip"?
2007-02-07 17:25:17 · 34 answers · asked by robert g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
kegels, also there is a cream you can get on most sex toy sights that is supposed to work, and in worse case they do have surgery for it, oh yeah, also suggest that if you are going to tell her do it as nicely as possible and may even say something along the lines of you not being that large (not that I have a clue, but she will take it better if you make it seem like you are the problem and not her) Good luck.
2007-02-07 17:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT TELL HER TO GET A GRIP!!! Ask her if she is familiar with the kegal excercises that she can do several times a day that will definitely help tighten the muscles that have grown lax. You didn't mention how many children she has given birth to, only that you were wondering how many men with a larger penis than yours that she has been with prior to meeting you. Pal, let me tell you that these excercises should work if she and you give it some time. To start off have her look up the kegal excercise on the internet and it will give step by step instructions. Also, maybe, she can try to tighten her muscles around your penis while you are inside her and this will help give you the feeling of tightness that you seem to miss. Good luck!!
2007-02-07 17:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by lilbit48vmb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused. You say she isn't as tight as she use to be. Which insinuates that at some point in your relationship she felt tight to you. If that is correct, why do you think it has anything to do with how many men she was with before?
In answering your main question there is no delicate way of relaying this information. She will probably be hurt and very self conscious. If you can get past the hurt and embarrassment with her then she can start trying to work on a resolution. There are exercises she can do. One particular exercises is called Kegal exercises. Believe it or not it will also heighten her orgasms as well.
2007-02-07 17:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of a procedure where the doctor basically puts a stitch or two at bottom the vagina opening. If your wife has given birth a few times then it's pretty natural that the skin would be stretched out and not as snug as when she was 18.
Good luck mentioning it to her. Maybe a more subtle approach. "Have you noticed the physical sensation from sex is not as intense as it used to be?" I've always heard women feel the most in the outer third of their vagina so it's possible she notices the difference as well.
2007-02-07 17:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married??? You just now noticed??? How rude to say that her not being tite now says a lot about who she's been with in the past! I think that the problem is that YOU don't turn her on! Womens' vaginas swell inside when they're excited, in case you didn't know. Maybe your limp noodle turns her off, too. Maybe you should try not to be so selfish, and try some foreplay or something to get her interested, or are you just a bumbling dufus?
2007-02-07 17:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by FadedFaerie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, kegel exercise is what she needs to do. She has to imagine tightening the muscle down there going from first floor to 10th floor- then back down again> 10-release-9-release-8-release..etc... she has to do this a lot. It's what women do after giving birth. I have two kids and my husband says that I'm as tight and even tighter than before. Don't give up on her.
2007-02-07 17:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she was tight when you married her then it has nothing to do with how many men she had before. She needs to do Kegel exercise (that is contracting the vaginal muscle). It keeps the tightness and its fun to do. No one will know she's doing it. Tell her to do it while driving, taking a shower, cooking or whenevers. It works wonders in many ways and its fun to do. Nothing boring about that exercise.
2007-02-07 17:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by Debs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, Her not being tight has nothing to do with how many men she has had in the past. She needs to practice squeezing her "Love Muscles" that will help tighten and she can do that anywhere....I practice at work ;) but anyways, she can also try douching like the night that you guys are going to have sex. That usually "shrinks it back to size" I hope I was able to help you. I don't have the problem that she has, but I just like to be "super virgin tight" when me and my bf have sex. It just makes it so much better and those are the techniques that I use
2007-02-07 17:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by fiveftelevenqt 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They have a product called "Shrink Tight". I have never used it, but have heard about it. Its worth a shot. Kegel exercises also are supposed to tighten the muscles. Good luck telling her that she may take real offense to it, so put it in a very nice way.
2007-02-07 17:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like everyone above me said, Kegels, the sex sites even have weighted balls she can wear during the day for those exercises. Tell her, honey, while I am pounding away effortlessly into that black abyss of yours I don't think you know I'm there and see if she tightens up then....it might be permanently.
2007-02-07 18:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋