okay so i have this problem i think im bisexual...nobody knows and all of my friend are extemly homophobic .and i dont plan on coming out becuase i plan on marrying a girl and im kool with keeping things a secret i guess..but im in college and i know this gay kid and i told him to smoke a cigg with me...how do i tell him i might be bisexual and that i might want to hook up with him..but i dont want him to tell anybody on campus!! if he does i would be so upset..somebody help please
2007-02-07 17:10:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Life is full of chances. At some point you have to start believing in someone.
2007-02-07 17:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Heres the thing man, your not gonna hide who you are and ever be satisfied with your life. this is going to just lead to depression. you think its tough now, just let it build a few years. Your true friends will (in time) accept you and move forward. Alot, however of them will not. There will be plenty of new friends though after you are out in the open. My brother is gay and Im a ky boy who USED to be extremely homophobic. It is amazing how your opinions change when you learn the truth about somoene you love if you want to maintain a relationship with that person. I know this is tough man and I feel for you. If you want to hook up with this dude you mentioned or not, it would like he could be afriend to you and give you someone to talk to. Remeber, hes gay! He knows what your going through cause hes been there, I dont think he'll talk. Use your own judgement whether or not you can trust him.
2007-02-08 01:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rudy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe dont tell him that you want sex at first. just confide in him that you are bi and afraid and confused if you think you can trust him. since he is gay he should understand and not out you(unless he is a jerk) and then let your relationship with him progress to sexual experimentation. make sure that he knows that is just sexual experimentation for you so he doesn't get hurt. while you are doing this you should be honest with your self. rejecting a part of your self or turning your back on true love just because you are around some homophobs at the moment is a bad idea and it will really hurt your self in the long run.
2007-02-08 01:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by joe s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. I guess there are all sorts of people on life. Bisexual and etc.. is fine i guess. If i were you. I would keep it a secret, because the society is still not accepting anything that is not part of the norm. It is better to keep it away from your future wife?. I just doesn't sound right to the normal people. But if this is the type of life you choose, you should.. as long as you are happy. It ain't illegal or anything. But of course i will support you to become straight though. Girls are more fun. :) why guys?
2007-02-08 01:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by Cheesehamster 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's none of my business but I think you should put your marriage plans on hold until you decide what is really in your heart. If this came out years later besides being married and possibly having kids involved it would be horrible for the both of you. Especially if you're thinking about acting out on your bi urges. You could always tell your fiance' and maybe she's try to understand, just take your time and follow your heart.
2007-02-08 01:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you want to have sex, you ARE going to have to trust him. However, instead of telling him I was bisexual, I would just drop a hint. Since you obviously already KNOW he's bi (and I hope you're sure of this) then just give him a real compliment. After all, I'd hope you find him attractive since you want intimate contact with him. Just give him a compliment on something about him you like. He should get the hint.
Good luck.
2007-02-08 01:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hook up with him - find someone off campus if you want to satisfy your bi-curious self. And, don't get married yet. Firstly, if you're in college, you're too young. Grow up first and figure out who you are. Then after you figure that part out, decide if you are gay, straight or bi. You'll be a lot happier that way.
2007-02-08 01:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by puppyfred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to live with yourself - everyone else is external to your world - your psyche.
Take the chance or not.
2007-02-08 07:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋