Is it right to be married with a baby and leading a normal married life and still in love with another man? that doesn't mean i don't love my husband or baby, they are also veeeeeeeeeery important for me. But this man is also important for me.
2007-02-07 17:10:27 · 12 answers · asked by ukriti 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes, you are to exclusively love your husband...
The vows that you took were for the two of you. I think that you may need to do some serious soul searching and find out what the real need is that you want to have met by this other man...
And I say that because you are straddling the fence...and that means there are some areas in you life that you are not quite clear on...
I do know that you need to find a way to deal with that issue as soon as possible...
I think it is bigger that 'having cake and eating it too'...I think that whatever it is that the 'other guy' validates in your life...needs to be confronted...
and once you confront it, you can have some closure...and find a way to have your spouse meet the needs that you have...without involving another person....
2007-02-07 17:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have your cake and eat it to all the time. Sit down and wiegh all your decisions and then make a choice. If you are truely in love with this other man you have to talk to your husband (perferabley with a counselor). He will be up set, but you don't want your child to grow up in a home full of resentment...I Did and it was horrible.
2007-02-07 17:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did u ge married at the 1st place
the rule is
choose 1 pick 1
whats important to u ur marriage or a silly adventure
2007-02-07 17:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by broderm2k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for this to happen, but that doesn't make it right.
You're leading 2 men on and it's not right. They have to be told th truth about your current situation, and one of them HAS to hurt in the end.It's only fair !
2007-02-07 17:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lauran B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it not right at all. if they are so important to you , then why would you mess that up with feeling for some other guy. sound
like a problem waiting to happen. time to deal what really is going
on before it all hit the fan., trust me it will.
2007-02-07 17:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you love him or are you IN love with him? If you are in love with him then you are being unfair to him, yourself, your husband, and ultimately- your child. You love for him is only going to foster for a long period of time and going to break up your marriage.
2007-02-07 17:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by BetsyLauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not right. You have to decide who you are committed to and stick to it. You can love him in your heart but keep it to yourself, don't act on it. It would only bring sorrow and a broken home for your child.
2007-02-07 17:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about normal, but it is common. Just keep things in perspective and you'll be alright.
Sometimes you can't help what you feel, but stick with your family.
2007-02-07 17:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giiiiiirrrrrrrrrllllllllll, You need to get back in CHURCH! That's DEEP!
2007-02-07 17:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no...no way!! be very careful. you might end up cheating on your husband.
2007-02-07 17:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋