I really need some advice. I know some of you are going to give me some harsh remarks, but it's ok, i need to know how people feel about this. I just had a baby 7 weeks ago, and now I believe I may be pregnant again. In fact I'm quite sure, I'm having the same symptoms I had at this time when I was pregant with my first, nausea, watery mouth, things taste a little funny, headaches, tingling breasts...ect, ect. If I am pregnant, the baby's about 8 days old. I am not in a relationship with the father, and neither of us wants the baby. I know the baby didn't ask to be born, and I don't want her/him to have to pay for my stupidity and carlesness, which he/she will probably do either way. I keep thinking about what I would want if I were the baby, to be born or not. What do you feel is best. Do you think he/she will suffer more if i abort now, before all the organs, brain and nerves are developed, or if I have him/her and give it to the state for adoption? Thanks for your help!
2007-02-07 16:59:27 · 29 answers · asked by lolli 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Maybe you should have your tubes tied............
2007-02-07 17:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You have to look at it this way you can get an abortion (if that's what you want) and have to live the rest of your life knowing what you did. Which some people can do. Or you can give it up for adoption (if that's something that you want to do) and again live the rest of your life wondering if you made the right choice or not. You should look into things a bit more you can actually contact an adoption lawyer that will help you find parents at no charge to you but they will help you through your pregnancy financially and they will also pay for a therapist if you need one after you give the baby up, don't make any rash decisions. If you feel that you can take care of two kids as a single parent then go for it. I think that it is a decision that you have to search your soul for the answer follow what your heart is telling you to do. I hope that this helped you even in the least bit of way.
2007-02-07 17:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Amber S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well ,why can't you put the baby up for adoption? Aborting the baby is like saying it's the baby fault! You should know after a pregnancy you are most fertile! Please do not abort! Right now I am in the process of adopting a newborn which will be in my arms this weekend! Adopting is always a wonderful choice! Ex specially if you decide not to keep the baby there are so many people wanting children out there! I myself have three biological and I decided to give a little one a really good home with wonderful sibling to love and care for him.Oh by the way it's a boy! Always please consider adoption!
2007-02-07 23:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by kelly d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mimi, I am so very sorry you are having to make such a difficult decision. I want to tell you that the body will naturally abort a fetus within the first 6 weeks if there is a birth defect. I really do not feel that this is the same thing as waiting until the 2nd trimester when the heart, and central nervous system are forming. It is a clump of cells now, but you would not want to wait any longer since this would cause you grief. As for having the baby and giving it up for adoption: I work for a couple who adopted a beautiful baby boy. They are such good parents to him. He was adopted from the Gladney Adoption Agency. Which ever choice you make, I wish you the very best of luck. Blessings.
2007-02-07 17:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first year of a baby's life is an incredibly stressful time. Being pregnant at the same time without another caregiver in the picture (not neccassarily the father, but if you are living alone its not good) could be very difficult, especially if you have bad morning sickness or difficulty getting around in later pregnancy.
Adoption is not an alternative to abortion, no matter how much people like to throw it out there. It is an alternative to raising a child. The difficulty you are facing is not just raising another child, but coping with pregnancy and a newborn at the same time.
You have a living, breathing, BORN baby to consider here. A baby who will have poopy diapers and need you to change them rather than vomit at the smell while (s)he is stuck on the changing table. A baby who will need to be fed whether you want to stand up or not. A baby who will wake up in the night and will need comfort, not for you to bury your head under the pillow in exahstion and frustraton.
If you have family you could live with during the pregnancy who can help with your baby, I would strongly consider it. If you don't, you need to realisticly remember your last pregnancy and ask youself, "can I give my baby what (s)he needs and deserves while pregnant?" Then you need to make some hard choices. Maybe it will be to throw yourself on the mercy of semi estranged family. Maybe it will be to have an abortion. There are no good choices, but you'll have to make the best and most realistic one for yourself and your baby.
2007-02-08 01:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kahuna Burger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I definately think adoption, it would give someone else who cant have children the chance to love him or her. I can understand you not wanting another baby but I just think adoption would be better. You don't want to do something that you may regret and it could also hurt you. Very early on they start to look human and as early as 9 weeks gestation they can already have the hiccups. In the end only you can decide so make sure you really think long and hard about it consider all your options, good luck.
2007-02-07 17:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl22182002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a decision only you can make. I dont know what to say but im really sorry this happend to you so soon after just having had a baby. i got pregnant on accident wth my first ( 14 weeks along) i cannot imagine getting pregnant again right after. I mean its hard enough to adjust to the one. I dont know that i could get an abortoin, but i still offer you my support. whatever you decide to do i hope the best for you.
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PS- i dont know if you have any other children but one good thing about having both babies right togheter is that you can get the baby phase out of the way silmultaneously and you will be able to get to where they both in school sooner ( if u want more kids, instead of waiting then having to start over)
2007-02-07 17:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom were given pregnant with me very unexpectedly. It despatched her international right into a tailspin. a lot of people advised her to have an abortion yet she would not even evaluate that as an decision. i'm now 20 years previous and she or he those days advised me that she not in any respect regretted her decision. She reported she couldn't imagine faster or later with out me. Now i do not learn about all the clinical words and what they have self assurance to be authentic about the 40 day element, yet to me a toddler is a toddler is a toddler no count number what element in being pregnant. i don't have self assurance in Karma yet I do have self assurance in time you ought to remorseful about the abortion (which i wager you ought to say is a unfavorable implication). i will pray that you do hit upon a job so that you will be ready to help having yet another baby. i understand that contained in the destiny it ought to finally end up being a huge blessing!
2016-12-03 21:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by lemmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think everything happens for a reason. I have always wanted to have children, and the first time I got pregnant, I miscarried. I was completely devastated but again, I believe everything happens for a reason. This is an incredibly personal choice, and if abortion is right for you, then do it. If you are really confused, you should seek counselling immediately before it is too late to do anything about it. You have to be at peace with whatever you decide to do. If you feel better about one option moreso than the other, then I think that is the way for you to go.
2007-02-07 20:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please don't let anyone bully you into not having an abortion!!! If you feel that you won't be able to cope with another child, it's probably best if you do have an abortion. I know it seems easier said than done and that you probably feel like a monster for even thinking about abortion, but trust me..... there is NOTHING worse than growing up in unplanned, unwanted and unpleasant circumstances.... NOTHING... not even death. Kids have a way of blaming things on themselves and feeling extremely guilty about things that they have no control over... so just imagine what this child would feel like most of it's life knowing that it's birth cost the person it loves and admires most her happiness. Children are most attached to their mothers and ur baby would have an emotionally unfair start!!!!
Good luck honey.... contact me anytime!!
2007-02-07 17:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My first 2 are 11mths apart I fell pregnant when #1 was 8weeks old. they are the best of friends and I wouldn't have it any other way. Its hard but very rewarding at the same time.
re abortion, I couldn't do it, but thats me. You need to confirm you are pregnant for one (if you are brestfeeding you may not get your period anyway) and then maybe see a social worker or someone who can talk through the options with you.
hope you sort it out either way best of luck.
2007-02-07 17:19:50 · answer #11 · answered by mumma_2_4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋