A friend of mine is married to a truck driver, and he stays out for a month at a time, she asked me if I thought he would cheat on her, I believe so but not sure . Has anyone ever been through this, What should I tell her. I guess I should say that he has cheated on his ex-wife before. What should I tell her.
2007-02-07 16:50:59 · 17 answers · asked by Terri Harmon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The truth!
2007-02-07 16:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by TWT 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have no solid evidence don't tell her what your suspicions are. That would neither confirm hers or put them to rest if it weren't true. Tell her that if she feels there's a reason to mistrust her husband, she should do a little detective work to find out if he's being unfaithful or if she's worrying for no reason.
Just because the odds of him cheating because he did in the past are against him doesn't mean he can be convicted of the charge again without evidence. It is in her best interests due to the health risks and emotional difficulties to find out what the truth is. I read on a detective's page that most spouses who suspect cheating are right. If she doesn't know he cheated on the other woman (how many is he going through in or out of marriage I'm wondering!) I'm not sure you should mention it unless she asks. What he did in the past doesn't always dictate his current behaviors. There's got to be a good reason you and she both think he's quite capable of cheating. Not a lot of trust in this guy's character (or favor) going on.
2007-02-07 17:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lovin' Mary's Lamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you CANNOT answer that question for her. Also, it's really not something you can predict or expect in spite of his past. As a friend, you should motivate her to think more positively about her marriage. If her husband has not done anything wrong, there is no point in wondering if he has? or if he will? It's not a healthy thing to think about infidelity, especially when it has NOT happened. Tell her that she's got to trust her husband, no matter how long he stays out, do not put a blame on him till he gives her a reason to. Be a good friend & motivate her to be more positive. Just because some marriages out there fail, it does not mean her's will too. Everybody's life is different as well as other people's marriages, even past ones.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-07 17:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he will cheat on her. First of all he has cheated in the past.If the opportunity presents itself he will likely figure that the little woman at home will never find out and what she doesn't know won't hurt her. Secondly, if they don't spend enough time together they don't have a chance to build any trust or intimacy between them, so he may feel that he really has nothing to lose.
2007-02-07 17:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by spanglishjen 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend is a trucker in Canada and I live in California and we only see each other 2x per year. I trust him not to cheat because his honor is more important to him and he loves me.
It isn't being away from someone for along time that might lead them to cheat, it is their character. If her husband has cheated on her before I understand why she might wonder.
What to do is to communicate with him. If he is evasive and not honest there is reason to be concern. The next step is hers. If she finds out he cheated again then some action needs to be done because where will it end?
Sorry she has to doubt his faithfulness and love... Good luck to your friend.
2007-02-07 17:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by Golden Smile 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my husband is a truck driver and it doesn't mean he will cheat because he is out on the road for so long tell your friend not to be worried about him cheating she better be more worried about the crazy people on the road if they have a good relationship she has nothing to worrie about
2007-02-07 16:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by beth g 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As they said, if you have nothing good to say...better not say anything at all. It doesn't matter what people think on the possibility of any man cheating on his wife...at the end of the day, it is always left to each individual being whether he/she would cheat.
2007-02-07 16:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you think he would be trustworthy. If she already has feelings like this, she will take any other affirmation as proof. The guy is out there, for all you know ,being completely faithful trying to make a living for her and the family. It's unfair to add that into a relationship you are not part of.
2007-02-07 16:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by ZEROCOOL 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My godfather was a truck driver and was married to my godmother. She learned that he cheated on her. So, they split of course and now they're both re married. Your friend SHOULD listen to intuition before she marrys. If she feels anything why she can't trust him. Then she should back out. Better safe than sorry!
2007-02-07 16:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by ********* 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just let her do the talking...no need to answer. The truth is you are in no position to answer the question. You would be offering an opinion, not a fact. Focus on her need to ask the question in the first place and support her.
2007-02-07 17:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by Marjery B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you care about her as afriend then just be there for her but don't get in the middle of it.If and when things fall apart what ever side you took it won't be good for you.
2007-02-07 16:55:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋